My brother was sentenced to three years in prison

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Yup, his drug addiction finaly led him to rock bottom. He broke into 2 houses to try to steel something to sell. For his heroin. A cop was patrolling the neighborhood and thought he was suspiscious. He confessed to everything. He got spooked. He didn't steel anthing but he broke a window to get in. He gave the cop his dope and needles and they took him to county jail. He's been there a week and is terrified. He got arrained today and was sentenced 3 year. His lawyer askesd for a year in rehab but the judge wasn't havin it. 2 felonies he dropped from 5 years to 3. That was the best he can do. I haven't talked to my brother in a month over a fued. I feel aweful. What can I do now. Except wait 2 years til he gets parole. Damn.

[magichands]

What can I do now.

Sorry about your brother. That sucks. You can visit him... that way he won't feel so alone.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

They were statements. Do you really have to correct me now? That's the last thing I need.

[whichwayisup]

That's awful!

 

I hope they give him drug rehab, or arrange it for him while in jail. Only good thing is, he has hit rock bottom and hopefully this experience will help him change (if he wants a healthier, normal life) and be a better person.

 

Can you visit him in jail? Write him? I bet he'd love to see/hear from you too.

[magichands]

They were statements. Do you really have to correct me now? That's the last thing I need.

Well done. You are a fast learner. No, the last thing you need is a brother in the slammer.

 

It could be worse... maybe. What's worse - to be visiting a lover or a brother?

[TheDC]

I'd visit him and make sure that he is seeking treatment while inside. Despite his incarceration he will still have access to drugs but he should make the attempt to kick the habit that got him in there in the first place. You can also start to get resources in place for him pending his release. Like enrolling him in narcotics anon, and getting him the contact info for hiring agencies that work with ex-felons that way he can be as productive as possible upon his release.

[Pyro]

Yup, his drug addiction finaly led him to rock bottom. He broke into 2 houses to try to steel something to sell. For his heroin. A cop was patrolling the neighborhood and thought he was suspiscious. He confessed to everything. He got spooked. He didn't steel anthing but he broke a window to get in. He gave the cop his dope and needles and they took him to county jail. He's been there a week and is terrified. He got arrained today and was sentenced 3 year. His lawyer askesd for a year in rehab but the judge wasn't havin it. 2 felonies he dropped from 5 years to 3. That was the best he can do. I haven't talked to my brother in a month over a fued. I feel aweful. What can I do now. Except wait 2 years til he gets parole. Damn.

 

I'm so sorry for what has happened and how you are feeling. Hopefully he will get the rehab that he desparately needs while in there. You don't have to wait two years to do something. Put the feud aside and support him the best ways that you can. Write him letters, send him some reading material, croosword puzzles, word searches, anything that may interest him. Find out if he calls anyone and have them tell him to call you. You could also visit him as well. Besides rehab, the best thing for him is support from his loved ones.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Well done. You are a fast learner. No, the last thing you need is a brother in the slammer.

 

It could be worse... maybe. What's worse - to be visiting a lover or a brother?

 

Well put.

 

DC....I hope for the best but I expect the worst, I hope he kicks it but I expect that if he can get it, he will. Every oppertunity my brother has gotten he's messed up. Sad to say but its so true. That's why I think he needs this. the scare and dicipline to scare him in the right direction. I plan on writing,. I already have 3 books in mind to get him. I'm going to see him as soon as he's transfered to State Prison.

[Porn_Guy]

That's why I think he needs this. the scare and dicipline to scare him in the right direction.

i hope for your sake IHNFC that he bucks the statistics....

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

i hope for your sake IHNFC that he bucks the statistics....

 

We'll see what happens

[ThumbingMyWay]

Well put.

 

I already have 3 books in mind to get him

 

 

add 2 more to the list. I mean all he has is time...why not read these too....cant hurt anything..

 

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

 

The Holy Bible

 

 

good luck and your brother is added to my LS prayer list....

[riobikini]

Unfortunately, there as many drugs *inside* as *outside* -and your brother's crime has placed him on the hotseat by officials to remain drug-free.

 

That will mean more than the routine drugscreen inside than anyone else receives.

 

Everytime it comes back dirty -he'll lose a bit of his accumulated days for quicker release.

 

The system calculator is strangly concocted, though -so no matter how many times he screws up on the inside, he'll, likely, still be released many, many days earlier than his judgemental official sentence.

 

Parole will entail a "program" focusing on his drug use.

 

He'll either buckle down and stay straight -or wind up back in jail, if he doesn't comply with no drug use turning up in his screens.

 

Since his crime is a felony -and depending on his success in staying clean and out of more trouble- he'll have the grim and depressing task of fighting his record the rest of his life.

 

Hard facts, above -but true.

 

If you do the crime in America -and even if you steer clear of any invitation for future trouble- you still pay a lifetime penalty for your crime.

 

How?

 

Just by attempting to create a changed life.

 

You'll need a job -jobs, these days, often *require* background checks on potential employees.

 

Lying about your past gets you nowhere -your record turns up.

 

This is a catch twenty-two that works both for the good of society and for the bad.

 

It creates an enormous wall of despair for those truly seeking to do better and *not* take up the behavior patterns of their past.

 

But even though these obstacles are present, feel overwhelming, and must be faced -they're *still* ones that you *can* overcome.

 

It takes steady and persistant practice in learning to deal with the stigma, put it into a perspective that reasonably rationalizes your circumstances -and your goals.

 

I'm sure your brother will soon be dealing with the realization of what he has done and how this will affect the rest of his life -and he will, certainly, have enough time to think about it.

 

What he chooses -how he deals with it- and the resulting outcome is as much individualized as the person he *was* -and the person he *chooses* to become.

 

Start working on settling the feud between you -write letters, make phone calls, visit, and show your sincere support of *his emotional well-being* and future goals.

 

A brother is a soul-mate.

 

Not just another number.

 

-Rio

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

i hope for your sake IHNFC that he bucks the statistics....

 

Unfortunately, there as many drugs *inside* as *outside* -and your brother's crime has placed him on the hotseat by officials to remain drug-free.

 

That will mean more than the routine drugscreen inside than anyone else receives.

 

Everytime it comes back dirty -he'll lose a bit of his accumulated days for quicker release.

 

The system calculator is strangly concocted, though -so no matter how many times he screws up on the inside, he'll, likely, still be released many, many days earlier than his judgemental official sentence.

 

Parole will entail a "program" focusing on his drug use.

 

He'll either buckle down and stay straight -or wind up back in jail, if he doesn't comply with no drug use turning up in his screens.

 

Since his crime is a felony -and depending on his success in staying clean and out of more trouble- he'll have the grim and depressing task of fighting his record the rest of his life.

 

Hard facts, above -but true.

 

If you do the crime in America -and even if you steer clear of any invitation for future trouble- you still pay a lifetime penalty for your crime.

 

How?

 

Just by attempting to create a changed life.

 

You'll need a job -jobs, these days, often *require* background checks on potential employees.

 

Lying about your past gets you nowhere -your record turns up.

 

This is a catch twenty-two that works both for the good of society and for the bad.

 

It creates an enormous wall of despair for those truly seeking to do better and *not* take up the behavior patterns of their past.

 

But even though these obstacles are present, feel overwhelming, and must be faced -they're *still* ones that you *can* overcome.

 

It takes steady and persistant practice in learning to deal with the stigma, put it into a perspective that reasonably rationalizes your circumstances -and your goals.

 

I'm sure your brother will soon be dealing with the realization of what he has done and how this will affect the rest of his life -and he will, certainly, have enough time to think about it.

 

What he chooses -how he deals with it- and the resulting outcome is as much individualized as the person he *was* -and the person he *chooses* to become.

 

Start working on settling the feud between you -write letters, make phone calls, visit, and show your sincere support of *his emotional well-being* and future goals.

 

A brother is a soul-mate.

 

 

Not just another number.

 

-Rio

Well said Rio....

 

He's never had an actual real job. Only the construction, off the books kind of jobs. So I sure he's going to stick to the motif once he's out. I told him he's got nothing but time. He should get his HS diploma, learn a trade, but I know this will be with him forever. I don't think he cares. He'll probably just go back to the job where his friend is his boss and sometimes doesn't pay him b/c the job they just did is late on their payment. Its a big mess. i think he has something mentally wrong. His way of thinking is different and no matter all the times he's hit rock bottom, it doesn't seem to phase him cause It'll all be over and things will be good again. So he doesn't take in whats actually happening cause it will all be ok.

[blind_otter]

You have my sympathies, IHNFC, visiting people in jail isn't very fun. It's a chore. Hopefully these consequences will be severe enough that your brother can get clean.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

You have my sympathies, IHNFC, visiting people in jail isn't very fun. It's a chore. Hopefully these consequences will be severe enough that your brother can get clean.

 

Sad to say but me too. he has had a lot of serious consequences. he went to work high and dropped a load o lumbar on his foot completely shattering his foot. He gotten broken rib from people be try beating out of $ or drugs. I guess those werent serious enough

[blind_otter]

My exH came out of prison a very changed person, but I would have to say not for the better necessarily. He is very cynical and a bit cruel now. I suppose prison has "hardened" him. I hope that the same thing doesn't happen to your brother.

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

Good Point. My brother already was a cynical person due to the heroin. So I hope he turns back to his old self from it. He's a small kid. I worry that he's not gonna make it in prison. That's my biggest fear. For breaking and Entering he goes to a Maximum security prison with rapist and murderers, and he's 5'8" 160lbs he's not big at all. But I can say he won't back down even if he is outweighed by 200 lbs. But that's only gonna get him more hurt.

[riobikini]

re:

 

IHNFC: " He's a small kid. I worry that he's not gonna make it in prison. That's my biggest fear. For breaking and Entering he goes to a Maximum security prison with rapist and murderers, and he's 5'8" 160lbs he's not big at all. But I can say he won't back down even if he is outweighed by 200 lbs."

 

Among the first things new prisoners realize when inside, is to hit the weights, pronto!

 

It's systematic, and goes with instinct.

 

Looking big and imposing is a "must" in there - and you mustn't worry- your brother will be on the weights within the first few days he arrives.

 

He'll learn to eat what's given -but will need funds (or what will serve as funds) to buy extra things to eat to build the muscle weight he needs.

 

So when he writes, "Send money", there's a good reason for it.

 

With or without your help this will be a goal he will endeavor to provide himself with -as it is a true necessity.

 

In a short day or so after arriving, he'll have found the social niche he fits best in and learn all he needs to know about the cliques, officials and the day-to-day routine of the specific prison he's been allocated to, in order to survive and stay relatively safe.

 

Depending on his personality, how well he uses the brain cells still in commission that didn't die off from drug use -he may wind up in a few scrapes here and there, but exit on his given day still able to father children.

 

Providing the *rest of him* wants a better life than the one he led before, that socked him there, in the first place.

 

-Rio

[zoe1983]

first off I am really sorry you have to go through this...it sucks to see those you love hurting themselves.

 

That said...your brother will quit when he is ready. I know that sounds lame but I had a friend who was a hardcore druggie for about 7 years and his parents kept sending him to rehab and to live with family to get him out of the enviroment and none of it worked. They were all at their wits end and then finally he was sent to rehab again and that time it worked. But when i asked him why he simply said because he was ready.

 

I guess that isnt much help but i think the best thign you can do is just be there for him and love him and hold out hope that one day he will decide to quit.

[funmusicgirl]

yea that sucks, sorry to hear about that