Tweezler021 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Ok so I'll try and make this short... I'm just so upset with my boyfriend! We've known each other for over 2 years, been together for a year. This issue has been going on for awhile but it's really getting me down even more lately. We hang out with my boyfriends really good friend and his girlfriend a lot! I dont mind at all i love hanging out with them. Problem is.. when we do hang out with them i always feel the 4th wheel. Lately i've been paying very close attention to how he acts around me when it's just me and him, and also how he acts when we are around them. When it's all four of us he is always so happy and jolly and just toatlly involved and responsive to whatever it is that we are doing or talking about. With me he is not like that. I always feel like i always get the butt end of him. Example: Last night all four of us went to walmart to buy groceries to make dinner and i also had to pick up a b-day present for my lil bro. Everything was fine when it was all four of us together but as soon as we broke apart from them and it was just me and my boyfriend.. all of a sudden the good jolly attitude is gone and now he is rushing me. We met back up with our friends and he is happy again.. actually completely just went off and started helping them leaving me behind. The 3 of them were at a register together, i was at my own. He was talking and looking at things with them, i was standing there, alone. I dont feel left out nor am i jealous. I'm angry, upset, hurt. I do so much for him, why is it that i keep feeling like i always get his bad side. Am i the one bringing him down?? What do i do? We've gotten in to so many arguments about this but after last night i feel like nothing has changed. I love hanging out with this couple but this is continueous and it makes me not want to hang out with them. Not because i dont like them, but because i always notice my boyfriend going out of his way and being so diff around them and it hurts me. What do i do? Please give some advice! I'm just so sick of it!! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Have you point blank asked him why he acts happy around them and not so much when its just the 2 of you? If so whats his answer? How often do you and your b/f go out with these other people? If he acts happy around them but not when its just the 2 of you, then chances are he is putting on an act for his friends. Maybe these friends of his have more influenece over him than he thinks? Link to post Share on other sites
Mythical Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Hey! I can defiently relate to that in more ways than one. I have an attention loving b/f and it gets to me A LOT sometimes! He does thigns like that and on top of that say a girl flirts with him at a store etc...he needs to brag about it and let me know. that stopped I let him know it just made him look stupid because I don't annouce every sec I get hit on! When me and him are in a group he will do that sometimes to with the guys and girls. Not too sure why the boys do this!! lol How old is he? you? Link to post Share on other sites
princessa Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Well we all have somwhat of a dirrefent personality when we're around people, hanging out in social circles. It's absolutely normal to have a more happy/bubbly attitude around friend and acquantances. After all, you do'nt want to bother them with your problems or character flaws. When he's alone with you in intimacy that's when you see the real him. Some guys will ignore their gf around friends because they don't want to be seen as weak and sentimental, or don't want to show that they're attached or attracted to you. That said, I don't think he's completely right in leaving you alone there. Maybe you should let him know quietly and politely that you need him to pay a bit more attention to you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tweezler021 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 I am 21 and he is 22. I've brought this up to him before and he always saids it's not true and then questions me. He would ask if i was jealous but thats not it at all. We always get into an arguement everytime i bring it up. I just dont understand it because the other couple are so cute with each other and they actually interact with each other.. shouldn't that influence my boyfriend to do the same with me, his girlfriend??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tweezler021 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Share Posted January 26, 2007 we hang out with them several nights a week. One time.. me and my boyfriend got into a really big argument and this came up. End of the argument he asked me if i wanted to get out of the house and go hang out with them! That made me so mad!! Is that weird????? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I am 21 and he is 22. I've brought this up to him before and he always saids it's not true and then questions me. He would ask if i was jealous but thats not it at all. We always get into an arguement everytime i bring it up. I just dont understand it because the other couple are so cute with each other and they actually interact with each other.. shouldn't that influence my boyfriend to do the same with me, his girlfriend??? You would think it might would influence him to want to do the same with you as the other couple does, BUT, I'm afraid the reason he may not is because he doesn't seem that into you. Most couples who are really into each other will interact with one another wheather its infront of other couples or alone with just each other. Link to post Share on other sites
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