superd Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 Hey all, I haven't posted in quite a long time. I figured I would post this and reach out a little bit. I tend to self isolate which is a majorly bad thing. I don't call my friends back. I feel like they are not good enough, that I don't have anything in common with them, and that I just don't have anything to see. Its like I swore off people. Last night I went out with people from work which I guess was a good thing but i just feel don't feel very connected. I suffer from feelings of inadequacy. I feel I don't deserve life or something. Its tough when you work in retail making $8 per hour and live at home with your parents and your 31 going on 32. I think that no girl would want me or the girls that show interest in me are girls I am not really attracted to. This is like two years and I am still saying the same stuff. I am very scared to try new things in terms of work because of the anxiety issues I have had in the past. I told my mom that I was thinking of law school but she doesn't think I can handle all the stress. Also, I know I am a good writer but it just seems like the field is overcrowded, like every field is overcrowded. I just don't feel like there is space for me in the world. On a positive note I have been able to begin reading again which is a hobby I enjoy. Sorry if this turned into a rant. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 CBT!! It can and will be your bestfriend if you're willing to go to therapy so you can become more confident and rid of your fears and anxiety. Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Google it! You are smart, so don't let ANYBODY, including your mom tell you ya can't do it. There is no such word as "I can't." If you want to go to Law School, then DO IT! IF you want to write, or freelance, DO IT! Don't let fears get in the way...And, as I mentioned earlier the CBT will help you gain self confidence, you'll learn how to handle stresses, fears and the "unknown's" in a healthier way. Trust me on this one, CBT works! I have anxiety and used to have it really bad...The therapy works as long as you're willing to do what it takes to learn new coping skills, learn how to think in a positive way and not let negatives thoughts, or what ANYBODY else thinks, get in the way. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 I understand how you feel in a lot of ways. I have similar problems with isolation. I don't know how to fix it. People like me, but I just never open up. And I end up on my own a lot. It's not the best way to live. There are things you can do, but if I were to advise you it would be a little hypocritical because I don't really take my own advice. I do think CBT can be effective. I've never done it, so I can't say for sure. But if you're really interested in making a change, it could be the key. There are self-hypnosis techniques that are similar to it. Mostly what I hear from your post is a lot of negative statements about yourself. Every negative thought you have will drive you a little bit deeper. You have to learn to believe in yourself. And then you have to learn that others can believe in you, too. You're no different from anyone else, except for how you've programmed yourself to think. Change that, and then things should start brightening up for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 Yeah I say your biggest problem is your negative attitude toward life you need to find something that rejuvinates you and ur attitude toward life. Look ur life doesnt sound bad at all if what you pointed out were ur biggest problems so start trying the things you want in ur life, like writing, and going to law school, and getting a higher paying job that you like, and getting a girl,and moving out of ur home. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 Hey all, I haven't posted in quite a long time. I figured I would post this and reach out a little bit. I tend to self isolate which is a majorly bad thing. I don't call my friends back. I feel like they are not good enough, that I don't have anything in common with them, and that I just don't have anything to see. Its like I swore off people. Last night I went out with people from work which I guess was a good thing but i just feel don't feel very connected. I suffer from feelings of inadequacy. I feel I don't deserve life or something. Its tough when you work in retail making $8 per hour and live at home with your parents and your 31 going on 32. I think that no girl would want me or the girls that show interest in me are girls I am not really attracted to. This is like two years and I am still saying the same stuff. I am very scared to try new things in terms of work because of the anxiety issues I have had in the past. I told my mom that I was thinking of law school but she doesn't think I can handle all the stress. Also, I know I am a good writer but it just seems like the field is overcrowded, like every field is overcrowded. I just don't feel like there is space for me in the world. On a positive note I have been able to begin reading again which is a hobby I enjoy. Sorry if this turned into a rant. You need to be decisive. There are plenty of low-stress careers out there that aren't retail. Unfortunately, law ain't one of them. Just preparing to get accepted into law school is hell - and that's about 1 to 3 percent of the hell that awaits you when you actually get into law school. And if you're fortunate enough to get to the other side, you've got your bar exam, which is one mother of a test and can have major job implications if you don't pass it. And if you can make it through that...you get to spend 70 hours a week or more slaving away in an office just so you can pay back your 100k of debt. You've got to want it, bro. Ever considered working abroad? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted January 29, 2007 Share Posted January 29, 2007 r u going to law school? Link to post Share on other sites
longlegzs80 Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hey all, I haven't posted in quite a long time. I figured I would post this and reach out a little bit. I tend to self isolate which is a majorly bad thing. I don't call my friends back. I feel like they are not good enough, that I don't have anything in common with them, and that I just don't have anything to see. Its like I swore off people. Last night I went out with people from work which I guess was a good thing but i just feel don't feel very connected. I suffer from feelings of inadequacy. I feel I don't deserve life or something. Its tough when you work in retail making $8 per hour and live at home with your parents and your 31 going on 32. I think that no girl would want me or the girls that show interest in me are girls I am not really attracted to. This is like two years and I am still saying the same stuff. I am very scared to try new things in terms of work because of the anxiety issues I have had in the past. I told my mom that I was thinking of law school but she doesn't think I can handle all the stress. Also, I know I am a good writer but it just seems like the field is overcrowded, like every field is overcrowded. I just don't feel like there is space for me in the world. On a positive note I have been able to begin reading again which is a hobby I enjoy. Sorry if this turned into a rant. Don't be sorry for having a need to express yourself and let yourself be heard. IT seems like we are all family on this site, so feel free to write whatever threads you need to to get the help you need or looking for. I can in some way relate to you and know people in your shoes. Its hard to say, branch out and just get out with friends, go do stuff when you feel the way you do. Take baby steps in improving ways of opening up to the world and being around others. Make short term goals to finding a better job, finding a home for you alone and whoever you want to share it with since your older and need space. If you have a passion in writing, then write, do what you love to do and keep learning. Writers are like artists, you need to make a name for yourself and make yourself stand out from the crowd. So, take up writing classes, or journalism whatever. DO WHAT YOU LOVE!!! And if you don't know what you love, then you need to make a list of things you have once enjoyed. Always think of this when you feel like you don't have a part in the world. Everyone has something to give or you wouldn't be here, whether it is some talent, random acts of kindness etc. Your here for a reason and accept it. Have fun, explore things, and don't shut people out, and if the people your around aren't your cup of tea, find new, but don't shut yourself out from the world. You have lots to give. Take care and keep us posted. Link to post Share on other sites
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