wildfire.55 Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hi for a long time now I've been searching for the right partner, I found some amazing girls, tried to boyfriend some but never worked, I felt really upset lately, lost all my confidence, I started being afraid from asking girls any questions like "can we go out?" "phone number?" "can we be bf/gf?", i'm in a point where I have few girls that are female friend nothing more, it's hard to proceed to anything further and I'm always the guardian angel, the brother, the friend ..............on the other hand, when a chance comes for me as in when some friend of mine tells me a girl is interested in me, I get terrified, it's as if I do not wanna see any girl I just wanna be alone, I wanna be the pureguy.... I wanna divert my thinking....can anyone help me ??? thanx Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 If you don't mind my asking, what is your age? It IS scary to take the leap into relationships, probably a lot of the people who post on this forum have felt this way (or even still do), but it gets less daunting with experience. Link to post Share on other sites
scarfstyle Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Stop thinking about it and the end-outcome - Just go out and approach as many women as you can, don't care what they think ... go have some fun dude! Become comfortable with women, and remember = You are the prize. They need you, you don't need them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wildfire.55 Posted January 31, 2007 Author Share Posted January 31, 2007 I am 17 now, turning 18 in april Link to post Share on other sites
Cous Cous With Goose Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 1 - Unless you're amazing, you'll usually have alot more messups than non-messups 2 - It's probably your approach. "Can we go out?" "Can we be bf/gf?" That's like a little child asking their mom permission to do something. You don't ask her permission. In fact, you don't ask any girl or guy for that matter permission for anything, unless it involves their personal property or something like that. Rather, you should suggest it. "I think we'd be really great together, wouldn't you say the same?" with a smile and the attitude that you want her but won't be affected if she says no. If she actually says no shrug it off a girl will say yes with time. But you have to never lose confidence and have a great attitude about this. If you believe you won't ever get a girl, you never will. Another great thing to do with a failure like this is ask the girl why she thinks this, just curiously. Make her know that you won't be trying to stalk her or hit on her in the future, unless she finds herself attracted to you. That's about it. You can still be friends, which may lead you on to one of her friends. Link to post Share on other sites
SadandConfusedWA Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 It's probably your approach. "Can we go out?" "Can we be bf/gf?" That's like a little child asking their mom permission to do something. You don't ask her permission. In fact, you don't ask any girl or guy for that matter permission for anything, unless it involves their personal property or something like that. Rather, you should suggest it. "I think we'd be really great together, wouldn't you say the same?" with a smile and the attitude that you want her but won't be affected if she says no. Approach doesn't matter. If I like someone I will say yes, no matter how they ask, and if I don't I will turn them down. Wording doesn't even come into it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wildfire.55 Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 but there is something really annoying i mean scaring off a person is something that haunts me, i agree with SadandConfusedWA because i learned that there is no magical spell like in harry potter to get any girl, nor the approach, if u got the qualities then it's easy to say yes, if no then try again in "never" buddy. Link to post Share on other sites
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