An outsiders insight

[njrocket24]

I got out of a horrible break up...cheating, dumped me for the new guy, the whole 9 nine yards.

 

i stopped talking to her for a long time because i was really mad, and just totally shut her out of my life.

 

In the summer after college ended, she started texting me with things like i'm so sorry, i want you to be better, i want you in my life and so on. I got so many of these and i caved and started talking to her. Then she kept saying how miserable she was, and how much better it was with me, and she can see us together in the future maybe, things like that. Then all the sudden she reverted back to "i love my boyfriend and all that". So i got mad and said i can't be in her life if he is, i will not suffer that indignation. So we stopped talking.

 

Then on halloween at like 2 am, i got a phone call from her, but i didn't pick up, cause we are not on speaking terms. She called back like 10 more times but i wouldn't pick up. The funny thing was it was on her new bfs birthday. Basically it went the same as before where she said all these contradictory things, but this time i got really mad and cursed her off and wrote her a really nasty letter.

 

I'm just wondering what everyone makes of this situation. I have my theories but i am obviously biased, so i'd like an outsiders view. Thanks.

[Speedo]

That's an easy one. She's not getting along with her current beau, or at least she's not when she contacts you. I have an ex right now that I broke up with, but she emails me whenever theyre not getting along. When they are, she doesn't respond back. In your case, she talks about how much she enjoys her guy. Typical in cases where the girl (or I guess guys do this too) is trying to keep you on the bench in case she needs you in the game. She doesn't want you to be traded to another team just yet in case her first stringer starts to suck. I know it's almost impossibly hard, but I wouldn't send anymore mean letters. In fact, cut her off. Give her full time NC for a while. You think it's bad now, wait till you start seeing someone else and are happy. She'll flip! Cheating, lying, etc, = crap girlfriend. You need to trade teams and quit being an option to her. She doesn't deserve it.