sugaredheart Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hi i am new and need a chat about my problem i have. I am married and have know this man at school who takes his kids there.(he is married to) For years we always have a flirt and thats about it really.Up until a few weeks ago every time is saw him he was asking me to meet him.So i did nothing happened there was so much chemistry bewteen us but we just skirted around each other.Until we kissed dont know how it happened but i enjoyed it.He was phoning me and texting me most of the time.Went around to his house while his wife was at work and we did a little more kissing but thats all.The meetings carried on till last week when he came to school and said that his wife thought he was seeing someone else as he was acting diffrently.So now he seems to of cooled off.But i am missing his texts and phone calls(wife took phone off him) And he came around to mine yesterday and everything seems to of changed.But i cant get him out my mind i miss him and its hard seeing him every day at school as he is in our little group of friends. i know its onoy a bit of fun as i love my husband and he gives me everything i need,Its just nice being wanted by some one else. I really enjoyed the chase in the beginning with this guy but now all im left with is confusion. Wanted to get it off my chest and alk to someone about it as i cant tell any one. Link to post Share on other sites
Road Rage Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 If you are married and have decided to stay married the only thing that can be done is to be faithful to your spouse. It is like the person who has an addiction to a drug. You just can`t mess around with a little bit, you gotta stay away or it will bring you down. No matter how bad you want it. It`s like a chained dog. If you stay far enough away he cannot bite you. Link to post Share on other sites
Road Rage Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Oh! And everybody hurts.....sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hi i am new and need a chat about my problem i have. I am married and have know this man at school who takes his kids there.(he is married to) For years we always have a flirt and thats about it really.Up until a few weeks ago every time is saw him he was asking me to meet him.So i did nothing happened there was so much chemistry bewteen us but we just skirted around each other.Until we kissed dont know how it happened but i enjoyed it.He was phoning me and texting me most of the time.Went around to his house while his wife was at work and we did a little more kissing but thats all.The meetings carried on till last week when he came to school and said that his wife thought he was seeing someone else as he was acting diffrently.So now he seems to of cooled off.But i am missing his texts and phone calls(wife took phone off him) And he came around to mine yesterday and everything seems to of changed.But i cant get him out my mind i miss him and its hard seeing him every day at school as he is in our little group of friends. i know its onoy a bit of fun as i love my husband and he gives me everything i need,Its just nice being wanted by some one else. I really enjoyed the chase in the beginning with this guy but now all im left with is confusion. Wanted to get it off my chest and alk to someone about it as i cant tell any one. You need to STAY away from this man, NO good will come from this. Yes you feel desired and that is nice, however you will end up very hurt, trust me I know! AP:) Link to post Share on other sites
Sand&Water Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 RE: Sugaredheart: Do you really want to be the Other Woman? These type of situations [OW/OM] are very sticky. Add in children -and it exponentiates to extremely sticky. In the end, I guarantee one or two broken hearts. There is not a simple way to say this. Because when a woman wants the OM so bad, there is no stopping her. I am hoping you are not one of those women. Walk away. Walk away, Now. You may not know this: The semi-relationship you are having with this man is and can potentially harm his marriage -let alone, break it up. I strongly advice you to cease contact. His wife is smart. She will do everything in her power to protect her marriage. By actually stepping into the pot of fire [ -i.e. kissing and chasing another man] says to me that your marriage is in dire need of attention. Good Luck, Sand&Water Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 --"i know its onoy a bit of fun as i love my husband and he gives me everything i need,Its just nice being wanted by some one else"-- I wonder how fun it would be for your husband to find out? I wonder how that would make him feel I bet he wouldent get as much enjoyment from it. I always frind it amazing how self sentered people who cheat on there spouses are. And yes even a little kiss is cheateing so please dont try and say its not. Um if your so enamored with this other guy then obvesely theres something your not getting from your husband that you need. Weither it be careing or enough attention or witch ever it may be. But thats something that you too realy need to sit down and figure out even more so if theres children involved. Do the right thing and drop this other man from your life compleatly and try to fix your marrage if you realy loved him as much as you say you woudent be running around behind his back like a school girl with a new crush.. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Hi i am new and need a chat about my problem i have. I am married and have know this man at school who takes his kids there.(he is married to) For years we always have a flirt and thats about it really.Up until a few weeks ago every time is saw him he was asking me to meet him.So i did nothing happened there was so much chemistry bewteen us but we just skirted around each other.Until we kissed dont know how it happened but i enjoyed it.He was phoning me and texting me most of the time.Went around to his house while his wife was at work and we did a little more kissing but thats all.The meetings carried on till last week when he came to school and said that his wife thought he was seeing someone else as he was acting diffrently.So now he seems to of cooled off.But i am missing his texts and phone calls(wife took phone off him) And he came around to mine yesterday and everything seems to of changed.But i cant get him out my mind i miss him and its hard seeing him every day at school as he is in our little group of friends. i know its onoy a bit of fun as i love my husband and he gives me everything i need,Its just nice being wanted by some one else. No, its NOT only a bit of fun and no you do NOT love your husband. Not to mention you are toying around with destroying your family and hurting your husband and kids.....but in your post I can see you aren't really worried about that. Its all about "me me me"...and how you feel. I really enjoyed the chase in the beginning with this guy but now all im left with is confusion. Wanted to get it off my chest and alk to someone about it as i cant tell any one.Why don't you tell your husband...see what he thinks about it. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 --"Why don't you tell your husband...see what he thinks about it"-- Excelent idea you have there I agree 100% You cant tell any one because you know its wrong.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sugaredheart Posted January 31, 2007 Author Share Posted January 31, 2007 total agree with what you all have said..yes i should stay away from him.Really trying to. yes there are problems in my marriage.ie. not getting much attention.little kisses hugs.limited sex. so this is why i think i find this other man attractive. I am going to do my best to stop this as i know im playing with fire.And yes it was all about me.me,me. I have talked to hubby about lack of attention and he said he will try to be more attentive but i havent seen anything yet and im fed up with making first move all the time its hurts. But going to do my best to be good.And will let you know how i get on. thanks for advice i know its all true, Link to post Share on other sites
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