whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 She's just letting her heart and emotions rule her, and not thinking clearly at all. Doesn't mean she has a screw loose, she's just not capable right now of seeing what her situation is in a healthier light. In time, she WILL figure it out. I hope... Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 I came here for some help. I have been laughed at. Made fun of. Now I am being told someone hope she beats me up. I am an accomplished woman. I got employee of the month 3 times last year. What is confusing me is the lack of advice. People have said I am a home wrecker person. When I have never been in their house. Now I have to worry about being aleinated. I might have to get a lawyer. This is all very upsetting to me I am sorry you're upset, but your situation isn't good for you at all. Take a step back and ask yourself what you are getting from your MM. What is it that you're confused about? What doesn't make sense? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 She wants us to help her carry on a relationship with a married man? Who knew you'd find OWs in the OM/OW forum? C'mon dude.... This is what they talk about in here. If you can't stand the heat... get out of the kitchen. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 Werent you never told not to call people names. She is delusional. She wants us to help her carry on a relationship with a married man? She has a screw loose. Link to post Share on other sites
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 BRV will you take a breath & calm down? Start over with what advice you are actually looking for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 I dont know anymore. I dont understand what anyone is saying. I cant stop crying. Because of these mean hurtful comments. I need to see past my tears. I have no one to talk to about this. Thought I could here, with people like me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I came here for some help. I have been laughed at. Made fun of. Now I am being told someone hope she beats me up. You get advice, harsh, rude whatever, ignore it and focus on the posts that help you. Don't let the bad stuff upset you. I am an accomplished woman. I got employee of the month 3 times last year. You are a smart woman and being accomplished professionally is great. But, what most are saying is, your personal choices, meaning allowing yourself to continue to stay involved with the MM is messing you up. That is what we're saying. It's an unhealthy situation, the way he treats you is WRONG and how you're reacting is only going to upset you more. You gotta figure out your life (on a personal level) and try to understand what it is you're getting from him and why you're continuing your affair with a married man who more than likely isn't ever going to leave his wife. What is confusing me is the lack of advice. People have said I am a home wrecker person. When I have never been in their house. I explained that earlier, the term homewrecker has nothing to do with messing up the house, its a term used when person has an affair with a married person... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Can someone please talk to me in english Is English your native language ? What country are you in ? Link to post Share on other sites
Ladyjane14 Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 People have said I am a home wrecker person. When I have never been in their house. Now I have to worry about being aleinated. I might have to get a lawyer. This is all very upsetting to me Anybody starting to feel like a big-mouthed bass yet?.. or is it just me? :lmao: (I TOTALLY forgot about the "midget" thread!!! ) Link to post Share on other sites
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Anybody starting to feel like a big-mouthed bass yet?.. or is it just me? :lmao: (I TOTALLY forgot about the "midget" thread!!! ) Are we being taken for a ride here? I hope not. And I'm being called the mean one here. Hmmmm Link to post Share on other sites
LilDarlin Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I explained that earlier, the term homewrecker has nothing to do with messing up the house, its a term used when person has an affair with a married person... LMAO!!! That cracked me up! Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Anybody starting to feel like a big-mouthed bass yet?.. or is it just me? :lmao: (I TOTALLY forgot about the "midget" thread!!! ) Nope, you're not the only one LJ. Employee of the month? Right. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 She has a screw loose. No she doesn't. Miss accomplished employee of the month is just bored at work and having a d*mn good time at your expense. Must be a state worker. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I think you're all being played. And Ms. Employee of the Month (three times last year!) wears a paper hat to work. Ok, but JUST IN CASE this is serious, how is it that this MM tells you he doesn't want "restrictions" in the relationship but YOU'RE restricted from seeing him whenever you want to or talkng to him about whatever you want to. He meant HE wants no restrictions to do whatever HE wants. You're very restricted in this relationship (if you can even call it that.) Don't you see that? I hope you understand my English because I realize it's not always the best. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I am wondering about BRV a little too guys. Who doesn't know what a "homewrecker" is? LOL!! And yet she has mentioned that SHE is intelligent and the W isn't. If that's the case, I would hate for the W to post here. Art, I think this one speaks english just fine. I have posted with many that don't speak english natively, and she doesn't have any of their problems (as in catch how they misuse a word or so in translation). This one does have something loose. Not sure what though. Def. need some professional help whether a real OW or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 I am glad to see you all think my troubles are funny. I was talking with him. And trying to straighten us out. Link to post Share on other sites
Kathleen Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I am glad to see you all think my troubles are funny. I was talking with him. And trying to straighten us out. Well welcome back. How did things go? Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Werent you never told not to call people names. Weren't you told to not sleep with other wive's husbands? Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I am wondering about BRV a little too guys. Who doesn't know what a "homewrecker" is? Ya, I'm now wondering myself...who in their right mind anounces being "employee of the month"...that is something checkers at a grocery store get. Not that there's anything wrong with that...LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 I am glad to see you all think my troubles are funny. I was talking with him. And trying to straighten us out. There is nothing to straighten out. He is married. What part of that do you not now understand? Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 For those that are interested in helping me. We have decided that we must take a break until I can get my thoughts together. I cant express how I feel right now. He said I am letting strangers hurt me and him and the relationship. But I dont know whatelse to do. I have no one to talk to. I came here for help and got jokes. Yes I was employee of the month 3 times last year. I am sorry I dont have a high power job. I am simply a blue collar person. If any of you have ever had heart ache then you know how I feel. Link to post Share on other sites
LilDarlin Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Most places with employees of the month have a drive up window. But honestly BRV, you need to go find yourself someone who is available. Things will never get better with this man. You are fighting an uphill battle and only hurting yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
NoIDidn't Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 Look BRV you posted here asking for advice and received it from OW and not-OW alike. Each set, though, was equally concerned about the nature of your AR with this man. You are in an extremely unhealthy situation and can't seem to be able to take that part in. All of us have at some point in our lives been in unhealthy Rs. Some of us still are in them, so that is NOT a judgment of you. RMD used a figure of speech "who's your daddy" and you took that the wrong way. She wasn't asking about your real father. Art was asking about things he has told you to do or not do concerning you not wanting him to talk about his W, not about sex. I have a hard time with your stating how intelligent he finds you, but you are getting all tripped up on common phrases. You are with the worst kind of MM. The kind that would drop you in a second the minute that the W gives him what he is after and he stops needing all his fantasy sex and so on. What's sickening about him is that you told him something was painful and uncomfortable (sexually I'm supposing), and instead of compromising with you he went and researched how not to make it hurt. He does not respect you. He expects you to offer your body to him as his personal playground and gives you nothing really in return. There are places that will get you the professional help you need without you having to go through your HMO and without losing your shirt over. You really need some help to see this man is not worth selling your self-respect for. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BedRoomVoice Posted January 30, 2007 Author Share Posted January 30, 2007 He said I can call and talk with him If I want to talk. I feel very lonely now. And I can not believe how mean people ( strangers ) can be. He always said I was like a piece of glass. I break very easily. So If that is what you all wanted . I guess you won. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 30, 2007 Share Posted January 30, 2007 No one wanted you to break you. Sorry that you are so sensitive. Link to post Share on other sites
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