Author Jalav Posted March 9, 2007 Author Share Posted March 9, 2007 Just a quick update: I don't know that I've handled things well at all. I try to be cool, and they're friendly, so the next night or weekend I try to be friendly, and they're cool. I broke down and texted him about a couple of problems (not related to him) and got a reply 24 hours later in the first instance and none in the second (which was actually the more serious!). I then thought that maybe he's only seeing me as needy, so I texted a third time inviting the two of them out. I got a 'maybe later' and then no answer when I asked about two hours later if they were still interested. I'm really at a lost on all of this, but the sad thing is, the longer this goes on and gives me more time to analyze him, the more I see that this goes way beyond him bowing to a girlfriend. He's always been a control freak and requires all relationships (platonic, romantic, male, female, party, etc.) to meet his terms, which is fine when you're getting along with him. So now he can't even see that he's treating me badly because it's easier for him to see me as the bad guy. Don't get me wrong; I've seen all this from him before, but I wasn't usually one of those not meeting his "requirements", so we didn't have a problem in our friendship. Now, I guess I'm on the wrong side of the fence like many others. Too bad. Thanks for listening. Jalav Link to post Share on other sites
Erik Posted March 12, 2007 Share Posted March 12, 2007 Jalav, this person was, probably in love with you, maybe he still is. Maybe he married to wrench free of you. If that is the case, I congratulate him. If he's not in love with you, maybe you should give him a little time with his wife and not text-message him several times a day. If he really is your friend he'll come back soon enough, but if my suspicion is correct, you should let him go. Link to post Share on other sites
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