Forget About Her Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Well, I guess you can only maintain 2 relationships for so long before the two relationships merge, and not in a good way. I had been seeing "Girl A" for about 1.5 years. I started seeing "Girl B" about 4 months ago. I have never been so unhappy in a relationship as I was with 'A'. I rarely ever saw her, and I never felt like a priority in her life. In my mind, the relaitonship was over, and I knew she was not the girl I wanted to be with. I didn't have the balls to end it, so instead, I started dating another girl. 'B' is a great girl, always wants to be with me, is fun, etc. Anyway, they both found out about each other, and now I've lost them both. It breaks my heart that I hurt 'A' so badly, however, I'm not terribly upset that our relationship is over. I knew it wasn't going to work out between us, but she is so sweet, and I hurt her beyond belief. I don't know what to do. I feel so awful, b/c I'm really not that type of guy, but I know what I did was a complete scumbag move. Any advice? Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Well, I guess you can only maintain 2 relationships for so long before the two relationships merge, and not in a good way. I had been seeing "Girl A" for about 1.5 years. I started seeing "Girl B" about 4 months ago. I have never been so unhappy in a relationship as I was with 'A'. I rarely ever saw her, and I never felt like a priority in her life. In my mind, the relaitonship was over, and I knew she was not the girl I wanted to be with. I didn't have the balls to end it, so instead, I started dating another girl. 'B' is a great girl, always wants to be with me, is fun, etc. Anyway, they both found out about each other, and now I've lost them both. Why the hell do you care if you lost girl A anyway? You already stated you are soooo unhappy with her. Why were you stringing her along? So you wouldn't be alone? Thats damn selfish. It breaks my heart that I hurt 'A' so badly, however, I'm not terribly upset that our relationship is over. I knew it wasn't going to work out between us, but she is so sweet, and I hurt her beyond belief. If she is so sweet why were you soooo unhappy? I can see that maybe you two were not compatible, but you made it sound like something horrible. I don't know what to do. I feel so awful, b/c I'm really not that type of guy Apparantly you are. See, you are the type of guy that gives the rest of us a bad name. , but I know what I did was a complete scumbag move. Any advice? Yes, don't be such a selfish jerk and try to concentrate on one girl at a time. I don't blame either one of them for dumping you on your sorry @$$. And if you are unhappy with a girl and know it won't work, then let her go so she can move on. Link to post Share on other sites
angkaul Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Learn from your mistakes. Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 My advice would be to apologize if possible, then move on and remember how NOT to act like a scumbag with the next wonderful woman you meet. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Learn from your mistakes. What I would have wrote. Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Well, I guess you can only maintain 2 relationships for so long before the two relationships merge, and not in a good way. I had been seeing "Girl A" for about 1.5 years. I started seeing "Girl B" about 4 months ago. I have never been so unhappy in a relationship as I was with 'A'. I rarely ever saw her, and I never felt like a priority in her life. In my mind, the relaitonship was over, and I knew she was not the girl I wanted to be with. I didn't have the balls to end it, so instead, I started dating another girl. 'B' is a great girl, always wants to be with me, is fun, etc. Anyway, they both found out about each other, and now I've lost them both. It breaks my heart that I hurt 'A' so badly, however, I'm not terribly upset that our relationship is over. I knew it wasn't going to work out between us, but she is so sweet, and I hurt her beyond belief. I don't know what to do. I feel so awful, b/c I'm really not that type of guy, but I know what I did was a complete scumbag move. Any advice? Learn from this and move on. Next time, please don't do that. If your unhappy in the relationship then talk about it or break up. You could have broken up with her and still been with the latest one. Link to post Share on other sites
crazy_grl Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Sounds like you got about what you deserve. Move on and don't even think of drawing some other girl in as your gf until you've done some work on yourself. What you did is not ok in any way. For now, you're a just a scumbag. Don't do it again or you'll be upgraded to an official scumbag piece of *****. Sorry if it sounds harshly bitchy, but I'm not in the mood for sugar-coating. Link to post Share on other sites
MotherGooze Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 You better let them both go. You hurt them terribly; what you did was totaaly wrong. Maybe you're a coward, and didn't want to break off your relationship with A, because of fear, but even then what you did was wrong, and you should learn from your mistakes, and learn to be more responsable for your actions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Forget About Her Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 I'm really not the cheater type. I've been in a couple other long term relationships, and NEVER strayed once. I was just so unhappy with my current relationship, and I felt trapped, because I was her "landlord", she was living in one of my houses. We broke up for about 3 weeks, and it was so weird going over there to do install new fixtures, or collect the rent, so I kind of felt like it would be easier to get back together. There were times, or nights, when we would have really good sex, she would be sweet, not want me to leave, cuddle, etc., but in the back of my mind, I knew the next day it would go back to being a fight, or not seeing her. Do you know what I mean? Has anyone ever experienced that? When things are going good, you can't fully enjoy them because in the back of your mind, you know it will go back to the way it normally is tomorrow. We shared alot of memories together, and I feel awful that I made her hurt so bad. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I don't know how to define the "cheater type" other than if you cheat you're it. Sure maybe others cheated more than you, but same goes for any scale of anything in this world. Everyone that cheats has an excuse to why they did it too, and seems you're right there as well... If you really regret it apologize to both and don't do it again all I can say... Link to post Share on other sites
BklynGuy Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Learn from this experience and keep it moving. Yeah, you had your reasons for cheating. Some people go from relationship to relationship, some break up, heal and then move on. Everyone is different. I would leave them both alone or try with Girl B if you think she could be for you. Even if not, there are tons of women out there that you're probably compatible with. Just work on yourself and do what you have to do. Link to post Share on other sites
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