So it hit me.

[Dookie_Dont]

Every relationship I've ever been in at my very young age of 20, has begun because of a friend hooking me up with em'. Or a friendship leading on to something else, which in turn blows up haha.

 

I have never had to approach a complete stranger but I believe once to start up a relationship. And oddly enough that was probably my best.

 

So I've never, approached a girl I've had an interest in and knew nothing about. And man not being in high school anymore certainly makes it much more difficult, not to mention a new city.

 

So pretty much I'm on my own, doing the grown up thing, in a totally new area hundreds of miles away from family and friends. Working all the time.

 

I did score one girls number, but it ended up not working out when I tried to call her for some reason. Maybe I came off desperate being in a new area.

 

I guess maybe I'm looking for some advice on people who've relocated, or moved out on their own. Not yet in school, but just living for the sake of living.

 

How long did it take you to adjust? I'm feeling as though I'm home now, and truly enjoy being here. How did you go about meeting people? Remember I'm too young to do the bar scene. And not being in college makes the student area a little far too.

 

I have met a few people and spent some time with them, I'm avoiding co-workers because I certainly don't need that drama.

 

So whats your experience, or suggestions?

[Amalthea]

You don't want to do the bar scene. I've not done it myself but I've seen a lot of people come back from it saying they're tired of it. So, I don't even go there.

 

Me, I'm 27 years old and ended a 10 year long relationship. So, dating is pretty new to me even at my age.

 

What I can suggest: get involved in activities you like that you can do with groups around town. I'm involved in a outdoors group (hiking, fishing, biking, etc). The up-side of it: If you meet someone in a group like that, you already have something to talk about -- a common interest and the group itself.

 

Also, some colleges around town might have activities that they open up to the general public. Even if you're not in college, you could meet people through those sorts of events.