do women think about this more then men do?

[Guest]

i would like a woman's reaction to this please. first - i have never talked about having a 3some with my gf and yet she keeps bringing it up - what is this all about? and the other thing is i keep hearing about women having affairs and wanting the affair man to be part of the 3some - any thoughts on this?

 

hear is what my gf posted on another site - as her bf what do u think i feel about this?

 

and lastly - how many women are in a relationship where they are so secure that they could ask their man to fullfill any fantasy they had? and what would that be.

 

i'll post my comments afterwards

 

So me and my boyfriend were talking about having a three some. We have been dating for 2 years and we love each other to death. The reason I want to do this is to please him not so much for me. I mean what guy wouldn’t want to have a three some with two girls? The only thing I need a little bit of help with is just getting reassured that everything is going to be okay.

 

Okay so lets start this out from the beginning. The way that we started up the conversation was we occasionally watch Porno before we proceed to fool around. It just so happened that there was a three some Porno on and he seemed to get really turned on. So I was thinking about it and I was like I bet he would really like that. So I mentioned it to him and he knows that I am a very self-conscious person and because of my insecurities he was very hesitant to be like "Hell Yeah" or anything of that sort.

 

So basically he told me he would never want to do it unless I was totally comfortable with it. He reassured me that I am the only one for him and that he would feel towards my friend in a sexual way. He said he would look at the three some in a way of fun and a new experience. He has told me many times before I even mentioned the three some to him that he finds me more attractive than my friend. But I guess the main thing I need help about is just getting some advice about the whole situation. So I am going to list a few things that I have been thinking about and if you could give me any advise on any of it, it would help me out a lot J

Okay so…

 

I will make a rule that them 2 cannot have sex with each other, they can do everything else but just not that. Do you think there will be problems with having that rule?

 

I am scarred that when he sees us 2 naked he might find her more attractive than me…

 

Me: I am skinny, with long blonde hair, blue eyes, have smaller boobs, and have a good butt.

 

My friend: Is thicker, short brown hair, brown eyes, huge but, and big boobs.

 

He is a huge butt man (He tells me that he likes round butts like mine and tells me he doesn’t like fat ones-my friends-) Then he also says he doesn’t care about boobs, but when girls have big boobies I know he enjoys looking.

 

I should be but I am scarred about the story with relationships and three somes that every one hears…2 people that are in a relationship decide to have a three some and the guy ends up falling in love with the other girl.

I was wondering if any one has done this before I wanted some advice and recommendations…Guys and Girls.

 

I am also scarred that if we do this once he is going to want to do this all the time or he will think its not a big deal to be touchy touchy wit other girls.

 

Guys that have been in a relationship and have done this, what was going through your head??

 

I know I sound like in a way I don’t really want to do this, but I really do want to do this for my boyfriend. I just need help getting rid of my insecurities and all my worries about having this three some…Please give any advise you can. Thanks

[Kokles]

I'm a guy and I do not want a threesome and was never thinking about it. I know many guys who think the same. Also many guys think about threesomes but are they really aroused by the whole idea or take it more as a ego gratificating action?? I personaly don't get aroused by a threesome thing at all. I tried and tried to think about it in a positive way but I ended up only focusing on one girl. Well bummer... but atleast I won't get tempted by it and won't have to deal with alot of trouble that people go through when they do the whole act.

 

What do you really want??? Phleaze, just don't tell me you think that if guys get all the sex they want they will love you more because of it. Your bf will not reward you with a greater love if you "give" him a threesome. I personaly never loved anyone more because of the sex. I love the one I love and if I didn't get sex I would feel like i'm loosing something. But if I get sex and even if it was the most mindblowing sex I would never love anyone more because of it. Does he feel like he's missing something when he doesn't get the threesome?? Is the idea of a threesome so strong for him that he craves for it??

 

Think about this... decide.. and suffer the consequences -- positive or negative.