Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Something I don't do very often, but I watched a lifetime movie called "A Secret Affair" last night just to indulge my curiosity. Same damn American made crap about a woman who dumps her fiance a week before marriage because she was on a business trip and met a stranger who wooed her into romance. I guess I was hoping I would see a different outcome, but somehow I was not suprised by it. Why is it that all these romance novel writers feed on this crap, and hollywood creates movies that make leaving your fiance for a better person so glamourous and romantic? No wonder everything is fuc**d up! What happened to the romance that starts and ends on the same note? People should not be commiting to relationships if they are not truly loving the O/P, and certainly having no business honoring a commitment they cannot keep. The story/book was written by an american female writer, I guess that pretty much sums it up. Cheers!
IpAncA Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 It's entertainment and if people keep watching it and buying books related to this stuff, they'll keep on making it. I to have watched Lifetime movies and I'm always hooked on them. Why? Because I want to find out what happends and it sucks me in.
alphamale Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 The story/book was written by an american female writer, I guess that pretty much sums it up. this krap is pornography for the female mind. it has messed up women totally with these delusions of romantic grandeur. its much more harmful than the porn made for men.
pricillia Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Please...everyone relates things to thier own situations... also people brag about things like fingering and intern on thier first date.. poor intern
IpAncA Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 this krap is pornography for the female mind. it has messed up women totally with these delusions of romantic grandeur. its much more harmful than the porn made for men. To be honest with you I really thought when I was "younger" that those guys in those books really were out there. But I was to young to understand things.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Please...everyone relates things to thier own situations... also people brag about things like fingering and intern on thier first date.. poor intern :o:o:o:o:o
outofdarkness Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Something I don't do very often, but I watched a lifetime movie called "A Secret Affair" last night just to indulge my curiosity. Same damn American made crap about a woman who dumps her fiance a week before marriage because she was on a business trip and met a stranger who wooed her into romance. I guess I was hoping I would see a different outcome, but somehow I was not suprised by it. Why is it that all these romance novel writers feed on this crap, and hollywood creates movies that make leaving your fiance for a better person so glamourous and romantic? No wonder everything is fuc**d up! What happened to the romance that starts and ends on the same note? People should not be commiting to relationships if they are not truly loving the O/P, and certainly having no business honoring a commitment they cannot keep. The story/book was written by an american female writer, I guess that pretty much sums it up. Cheers! I find those movies really depressing and they make me "think" too much about all of the negative things that have happened in my life. I need to focus more on the positive, and Lifetime just doesn't help me do that. Sometimes it really IS tempting to watch them though!
Flyin in Clouds Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 My mother used to say the writers in Hollywood must be on drugs. She was being sarcastic. Little did she know how right she was. They actually are on drugs. What about TV? Men in Trees doing it. Brothers and Sisters doing it. Grey's Anatomy - everyone getting plenty of anatomy lessons. You need a score card just to keep up with who did who. And then there are the Desperate Housewives. But you know this whole thing - love - ok, and lets be honest - and sex - has been on our collective minds for a very long time. Just look at the stuff that went on in the Bible. What are most of our plays, movies, books, poems, and songs all about? A Midsummer's Night's Dream, and Much Adu About Nothing. Wuthering Heights - woman leaves her love for a richer man. The End of the Affair. (by Graham Greene - anyone read it or see the movie version?) This love thing sure is complicated and it must be pretty important if we humans put so much effort into it. Porn - BTW, every new media since Beta and VHS came out has been used, if not primarily, then to a very large degree, to distribute porn. DVDs, Internet, ... The porn industry is a multi-billion dollar industry. Curious Yellow? If there wasn't demand for this stuff nobody would make it. Cosmetics - yeah that stuff women buy to make themselves more attractive - attractive to who? The opposite sex perhaps? During the Apollo moon program more money was spent on cosmetics in a single year than the entire budget for the moon program in all it's years. Think about it. That's a lot of money to make women prettier and while I sometimes like it, women are beautiful au natural. Vanity, vanity sayeth the Lord. All is vanity. Sex sells. Does anyone really wonder why? Sex makes the world go 'round.
Pyro Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 It's entertainment and if people keep watching it and buying books related to this stuff, they'll keep on making it. Exactly. Its all about making the cash. As long as the public craves it, hollywood will continue to deliver.
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Please...everyone relates things to thier own situations... also people brag about things like fingering and intern on thier first date.. poor intern Sorry in advance..... Finger lickin' good!! (Couldn't resist, it popped into my head and had to cum out!) :o:o:o:o:o How's that going, anyway?
Author Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Sorry in advance..... Finger lickin' good!! (Couldn't resist, it popped into my head and had to cum out!) How's that going, anyway? Actually it's going pretty well, she is quite a bit clingy at times but we have talked about it and everything is okay. Strange as it is, she was brought up very conservative, and she is very religious. She knows I am opposite of that, but perhaps that what fuels the fire so to speak. There is a definate gap in maturity levels, but she is so unscarred by the world that it's nice to have someone with a clear and unimpeded mind. Cheers!
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Clingy = emotional attachment to you...Be careful, k. She's young and can fall hard real fast...
Porn_Guy Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Strange as it is, she was brought up very conservative, and she is very religious. She knows I am opposite of that, but perhaps that what fuels the fire so to speak. that combo will only work short-term unless you quickly find God and the Republican party
Author Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Clingy = emotional attachment to you...Be careful, k. She's young and can fall hard real fast... Yeah....I know.
SueBee3490 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Why is it that all these romance novel writers feed on this crap, and hollywood creates movies that make leaving your fiance for a better person so glamourous and romantic? No wonder everything is fuc**d up! What happened to the romance that starts and ends on the same note? People should not be commiting to relationships if they are not truly loving the O/P, and certainly having no business honoring a commitment they cannot keep. I know what you mean Rooster. Just the other day I watch "Titanic" again. I really liked that movie when it was first released, though I knew the outcome But really the whole premise of it is a high society girl who has a bf (he may have been her fiance) and then she cheats on him with the poor "bad" boy. When I first watched it, I cheered for Rose & Jack to be together but now having been cheated on, I felt as if I had a different view on it. Sure her bf was an a**hole but he was her bf! No wonder he was mad at her for screwing around on him! But we are drawn into this "love story" and thinking that they really were in love for those few days when in reality it was probably just the honeymoon stage of dating when everything is great and you are on a high. They had not even been through reality yet with day-to-day living. No so sure they would have lasted given their backgrounds. So after my experience with a cheater, I'm not so sure I think very highly of this movie anymore. I know this sounds stupid but its how I feel.
Woggle Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Lifetime is the manhating network. Every male character in those movies is negative. I would say to men to stay away from any woman that is hooked on this stuff. Women who base their lives off of what they see on TV are are nothing but drama.
My Fair Katie Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 It's not just lifetime. Two movies that p1ssed me off: Bridges of Madison County, and The Horse Whisperer. GRR! I'm sure there are more, those just pop immediately into mind. Well, also Sophie's Choice but that didn't end very happily. Same as Anna Karenina, I think they did a film adaptation of that, no? Well definitely not a happy ending anyway.
Mustang Sally Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 You know, with Streep and DeNiro? I hadn't watched that one for years but I saw it again a few weekends ago. Talk about bull*****!! I agree with Alpha that this stuff is "pornography for the female mind" and more harmful (in many situations) than sex porn. It perpetuates the myth of infinite romantic love, when, as many/most of us here know, infatuation has it's days numbered from the beginning. True love is a different kind of emotion, entirely. My favorite line from that movie (Falling in Love) is when DeNiro is telling his wife that he recently heard that a couple they know "isn't in love anymore" and she looks at him and says "No one's in love anymore..." Doh!
westernxer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Rooster, you wouldn't feel this way if you watched Fox Soccer Channel and Fox Sports Español. LOL
JadeStar Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I don't usually watch alot of LifeTime movies, not that they don't have some good movies but I find some to be depressing, and can feed on the mind in a negative way. I think too that the people who make those movies could be from expereinces of their own, and based on real life stories. Some can be kind of informative about things, but some of it to is that they know some people feed off that kind of drama, and continue to watch them, just like soap operas. But thats JMO. Jade
SueBee3490 Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Mustang Sally, I don't think I saw that movie but there is another old movies I've watched a few times with Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson called "Heartburn". I think they get married, have baby, seem happy, but then she finds out all along he's been having an affair. I think they try to make a go of the marriage more than once (haven't seen it in a while so don't hold me to that!) but then at the end she does end up leaving him because she's just had enough of his cheating.
Woggle Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I also agree that these movies are more dangerous than porn. With most men porn is just naked women. We know the breasts are fake and we know they are airbrushed but we look anyway because it is a fantasy. Women who watch this stuff actually take it seriously and they actually start thinking it applies to their life. I would rather my wife look at Playgirl than watch this stuff. Not saying she does watch it but if she did I would be worried.
JackJack Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Lifetime is the manhating network. Every male character in those movies is negative. I would say to men to stay away from any woman that is hooked on this stuff. Women who base their lives off of what they see on TV are are nothing but drama. I'm going to agree with this. I see this happening more so with people who have been burned or scorned, however you wish to look at it. However this can also apply to SOME men as well, not just women. Do I think that ALL women or men feel that they see ALL relationships as negative? NO alot of people have been burned by love, but they do not view thier lives or what happened in a negative way. But for those they do view thier lives like that, this kind of TV drama will worsen someones mind/thoughts on how the view things. I had a aunt who was a good example of this. She was cheated on by her husband. (She stayed with him too), she watched movies about affairs all the time. She was negative from what happened, but it would seem every time she watch a movie about affairs it would "trigger" what had happened to her. And she would then go off on these tangents and all of a sudden become suspicious all over again. But yet, watching movies on affairs was like a drug she couldn't kick. Its kind of like she wallowed in what happened and her movie watching was just a confirmation of that.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 I know what you mean Rooster. Just the other day I watch "Titanic" again. I really liked that movie when it was first released, though I knew the outcome But really the whole premise of it is a high society girl who has a bf (he may have been her fiance) and then she cheats on him with the poor "bad" boy. When I first watched it, I cheered for Rose & Jack to be together but now having been cheated on, I felt as if I had a different view on it. Sure her bf was an a**hole but he was her bf! No wonder he was mad at her for screwing around on him! But we are drawn into this "love story" and thinking that they really were in love for those few days when in reality it was probably just the honeymoon stage of dating when everything is great and you are on a high. They had not even been through reality yet with day-to-day living. No so sure they would have lasted given their backgrounds. So after my experience with a cheater, I'm not so sure I think very highly of this movie anymore. I know this sounds stupid but its how I feel. Yeah, it was a good movie but I felt the same way you did about it. Often, the person having an affair will make their partner look like a monster to other people, I have seen it time and time again. I actually think in many cases the cheating spouse convinces him/herself that their current partner is the one who is the problem, as a way of rationalization.
Author Rooster_DAR Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 It perpetuates the myth of infinite romantic love, when, as many/most of us here know, infatuation has it's days numbered from the beginning. True love is a different kind of emotion, entirely. You said the magic words, too bad many people don't understand this. Like Alpha always says, you can blame the parents (mothers) for bringing their children up with some of these values and standards.
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