DyingHeart Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 To say the least, they are getting a bit annoying and I wish I could just have a nights rest without them. I know we all dream, all the time, but I really wish I could just forget them. Sometimes they are disturbing as hell, and they really ruin my day. I mean, they can get so bad that I feel as if I'm hallucinating, where I don't know where the dream ends and reality starts. I wake up a lot and the next day, I'm so groggy. I do some meditation before bed, but they still come. Does this happen to anyone else? How can I stop them? Anyone have any tricks? Link to post Share on other sites
justagirlforever Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 It's not as easy as "how do I stop dreaming". If you read a bit about dreams (quite complex if you delve into it), it's very neccesary to dream. Though some people claim they don't. I had a few of particulary graphic / disturbing / reoccuring dreams (that made no sense whatsover) for many years (as a child & teen) on a fairly regular basis. It drove me nuts and I hated it. Then I just told myself (over and over and over) before going to sleep, that I can control those dreams if I have them. By either just not having them - or alter the outcome if I do. And since then, it's been more or less fairly easy to control my dreams. And quite fun even. Though it took a while to get there Link to post Share on other sites
yousaveme Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I am one of those people that my mind has a million thoughts racing through when I go to sleep. I either cant fall asleep or I wake up in the middle of the night. And then cant fall back to sleep. I have been taking Advil PMs. Only two. And they put me out. I get my rest I need and I dont feel that drowsy in the morning 2 cups of coffee and I am awake. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Wow, that sounds frustrating. I have a very vivid dream life, too, and sometimes have that same experience of not knowing where reality begins and dreams end. What has helped me is to record them somehow, either write them down or use a tape recorder, even draw them or do like a comic book style narrative using stick figures! You don't need to bog yourself down in detail, but I find it's a way of "making friends" with the dreams instead of being tormented. I can also tell you from my experience that just doing this has given me tremedous personal revelations at times, unexpected insights. This being said, I gotta tell you that years ago I saw a Jungian therapist who did a lot of my therapy by having me tell my dreams. For me, this gave me personal growth that I could not even imagine... my dreams at that time were like gifts that healed me. While Jungian therapists are trained to work with dreams and symbols, which helped me, I think the real power was in just telling him my dreams and talking about them, which lead to insights and healing. I'm not saying that you need to go to a therapist to benefit from your dreams, not at all. I just want to make the point that my experience has made me realize that dreams are worth listening to, gifts from your subconscious DyingGirl, who I am sure wants the best for you.... Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I meant DyingHeart, not DyingGirl! Sorry! Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 It's not as easy as "how do I stop dreaming". If you read a bit about dreams (quite complex if you delve into it), it's very neccesary to dream. Though some people claim they don't. I had a few of particulary graphic / disturbing / reoccuring dreams (that made no sense whatsover) for many years (as a child & teen) on a fairly regular basis. It drove me nuts and I hated it. Then I just told myself (over and over and over) before going to sleep, that I can control those dreams if I have them. By either just not having them - or alter the outcome if I do. And since then, it's been more or less fairly easy to control my dreams. And quite fun even. Though it took a while to get there Yes! Great advice for DyingHeart. What you said about saying that stuff over and over before you fall asleep is true. I used to think before I fell asleep, something like "what gifts can my dreams give me tonight". And they really did seem to deliver, in a good way. I think it's like making peace with them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author DyingHeart Posted February 2, 2007 Author Share Posted February 2, 2007 I'll have to try that. I never really kept a dream journal, nor have I ever tried to program my dreams, for lack of a better word. Gaaa, they just sometimes, make me feel like I'm going insane, lol. A lot of them are about my ex. I hate those. Sometimes we're together, sometimes he's with another woman and sometimes he's just there. It's really hard when I'm trying not to think too much about him, but even if I don't much during the day, my subconsious will always "think" about him. From what I understand, dreams about the ex are common after a breakup. Though, I could do without them. Other dreams are just so wrong feeling, they are hard to describe. I am however going to be seeing a therapist in 3 weeks, so it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to bring them up with her. Thank you all for your replies Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I'll have to try that. I never really kept a dream journal, nor have I ever tried to program my dreams, for lack of a better word. Gaaa, they just sometimes, make me feel like I'm going insane, lol. A lot of them are about my ex. I hate those. Sometimes we're together, sometimes he's with another woman and sometimes he's just there. It's really hard when I'm trying not to think too much about him, but even if I don't much during the day, my subconsious will always "think" about him. From what I understand, dreams about the ex are common after a breakup. Though, I could do without them. Other dreams are just so wrong feeling, they are hard to describe. I am however going to be seeing a therapist in 3 weeks, so it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to bring them up with her. Thank you all for your replies Ugh! I have had those dreams about Xs, too, while going through a break up. No wonder you are feeling this way! Anyhow, it'll be interesting to see what kind of things pop into your head while you are writing down your dreams, my bet is it will help to put the bad stuff to rest... Link to post Share on other sites
frannie Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 I would agree with the idea of bringing the dreams up with your therapist. They should take them seriously, because they're a clue to what you need to deal with to move on happily. And also writing them down, thinking about what they might mean. They're trying to tell you something about something you need to deal with. Once you have done, you might find yourself free of the anxiety that won't let you rest easily. Best wishes. Link to post Share on other sites
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