ahsumgurl909 Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 This morning M asked me to marry him? He just like I dont know said I love you so much and I realize your the one for me. Will you marry me I promise I will make you so happy. I was like What? Really? OMG! I havent answered him yet because I dont know if I trust him enough to even believe that he isnt going to say "I was just messing around." But I did ask him several times if he was serious. And he even cooked me breakfast in his condition we argued over that because he just had surgery. But he insisted. It was wonderful. I dont know what to think or feel yesterday he took me to his church and it was raining but we stood outside of the place in the rain and talked about everything under the sun. This operation did something to him he is like the person I knew he was on the inside. But still I have fears that it will change. What should I do I love him so much!! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Sorry, but I thought you two broke up. I don't understand why you can't see that he's a total idiot. One minute he's telling you to get out and he wants his ex girlfriend, then he tells you he wants you - next minute he's told the hospital nurses NOT to let you in, then he's staying at your house - Then the next minute he's leaving messages on your machine telling you he doesn't want you .... And so on......... He isn't the person you think he is. And sadly, if you can't see that now, I'm not sure what else I can do to open your eyes. My suggestion though is, go back and read ALL your past threads and all the replies given to you. Read what YOU originally posted, and ask yourself if you want to marry a man who treats you like crap. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Sorry, but I thought you two broke up. I don't understand why you can't see that he's a total idiot. One minute he's telling you to get out and he wants his ex girlfriend, then he tells you he wants you - next minute he's told the hospital nurses NOT to let you in, then he's staying at your house - Then the next minute he's leaving messages on your machine telling you he doesn't want you .... And so on......... He isn't the person you think he is. And sadly, if you can't see that now, I'm not sure what else I can do to open your eyes. My suggestion though is, go back and read ALL your past threads and all the replies given to you. Read what YOU originally posted, and ask yourself if you want to marry a man who treats you like crap. I agree completely with WWIU's post . AG ...don't walk...run away from this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 I should'nt give him a chance to prove himself or nothing? What if I miss out on something that I know I want because I truly love him. He has a lot of messed up points but since I started taking care of him he has been totally different. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 I should'nt give him a chance to prove himself or nothing? What if I miss out on something that I know I want because I truly love him. He has a lot of messed up points but since I started taking care of him he has been totally different.You've already given him tons of chances . Hes shown his true colors . Don't let him drag you further down . Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 He doesn't love you. You know this. His actions show you this daily! People do NOT change overnight, sick or not. It's your life, you're gonna do what you're gonna do, but if I were in your shoes, the door would be hitting him in the ass right about now. Link to post Share on other sites
Craig Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 What I really think about him I can't write on LS without getting a lifetime ban so I'll just say I agree with WWIU and Tink. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink_Tulip Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 I should'nt give him a chance to prove himself or nothing? What if I miss out on something that I know I want because I truly love him. He has a lot of messed up points but since I started taking care of him he has been totally different. Translation: He has shown me his true colors by treating me like crap in the past, but now that he needs something, he is being nice only until he is done using me. Then it will be back to status quo. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Can I ask you why you would want to marry him ? because he asked isn't what I was looking for either.. I would like to hear why you want to be his wife. List the positive things.. Link to post Share on other sites
VinaAmez Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 I haven't read all your theads to see what's going on but from what I gathered, he doesn't sound very nice (using nice words here). If he's anything like what these other posters have said, then yes run like the dickens. I can't believe some of the stuff that went on. To much drama, among other things. But I will say this, I think you need to try and handle things a we bit better then smashing things in your house. There are other ways to handle stressful situations. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 List the positive things.. Can't list what's not there unless you're delusional and living in a total fantasy world permeated by chemical substances that cloud your judgement. To ahsumgurl: Well, that certainly answers that question, doesn't it? Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Is it the norm for people to post in a bunch of diffrent sections for the exact same issue?? Kinda looks like if she starts to not get the ansers she wants poof into another one. To start another thread about this mentily retarted scum sucking parasite of a so called man!! How can you even consider marrying him are you mentily slow your self?? Im realy sorry not meaning to be rude or anything but my god women cant you see what people are telling you????? YOU ARE NOTHING BUT A PUPPET ON HIS TWISTED STRINGS!!! He DOSENT care about you he WILL NOT CHANGE for you or any one else. You CANT AND I MEAN CANT NOT!! change some one so dont even go into this thinking you can. I think maybe one of the other posters might have hit on something tho maybe her mind is actualy clouded by the drugs or something she use to take. That and like I said in one of her other posts I think shes now craveing the attention and drama this hole situation is causeing thats about all I can figure.. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 I can believe it. What I can't believe is that he is still in your life after everything in your past. Last week he wanted to marry that black toothed girl. Next week he'll want to marry (fill in the blank.) Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 OMG I just looked at a few of her other threads mainly the one called I just smashed everything in my room or something like that!! Oh my this women has children I never knew that before I just hope that they dont live with her for there own sake my god --"I feel better now that I broke all my stuff for some reason. Damn I thought I was never going to stop hurting. But OMG I broke things that I cherished. Things my kids gave me. Hell it was worth it!!!"-- I'de be dammed if I ever broke anything my son gave me over some guy that dident give a crap!! You realy need to seek help for your self and even more for your children wow just wow.. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Sorry, but I thought you two broke up. I don't understand why you can't see that he's a total idiot. One minute he's telling you to get out and he wants his ex girlfriend, then he tells you he wants you - next minute he's told the hospital nurses NOT to let you in, then he's staying at your house - Then the next minute he's leaving messages on your machine telling you he doesn't want you .... And so on......... He isn't the person you think he is. And sadly, if you can't see that now, I'm not sure what else I can do to open your eyes. My suggestion though is, go back and read ALL your past threads and all the replies given to you. Read what YOU originally posted, and ask yourself if you want to marry a man who treats you like crap.I haven't read any of your previous posts, but since WWIU described him in a few words, I get the picture. All of it! He is unstable and he will do this to you and put you through this roller coaster over and over again until he breaks you. He might even be bipolar, but please don't grant him any excuses until it's medically proven. If he is breaking your heart, he's bad news for you. Plus there's another woman involved? How can you let him jog between you and her and not lose your self-respect? If you decide to give him another chance, you should at least promise yourself that next time he screws up, he's history. And keep that promise, because he WILL screw up 100 more times if you let him. But don't tell HIm that he has only one more chance - it's in your interest for him to show his true colors to you, not be careful because you threatened to dump him forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Poo Poo on him Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Wow. ashumgurl, you are brainwashed by him it seems. You're going to be used and abused to no end if you marry this dude...everyone's telling you this but it's not getting through obviously Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 3, 2007 Author Share Posted February 3, 2007 I know all of you are absolutely right. And I am grateful for your honesty. I want to take your advice and run with it faster then ever. But How do I do this? Everytime he calls or comes to my door or waits for me outside, I fold. He either get loud and embarrassing or so charming and sweet. I want to have respect for myself and to love myself so much. But its like I am fighting off good and evil. PS MY KIDS DONT LIVE WITH ME THEY ARE ADULTS. OF COURSE I WAS UPSET I BROKE SOMETHING THEY GAVE ME BUT I FELT LIKE IT TOOK AWAY SOMME OF THE BONDAGE Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 But How do I do this? Just freaking DO IT! If you do it once it will be easier every time thereafter. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 Just freaking DO IT! If you do it once it will be easier every time thereafter. Yep, just do it . Get earplugs for if he shows up talking through the door . Out them in and just ignore him. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 Is this the same guy who got a heart attack from doing you? Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 It's the same one who has been the subject of all the drama. He earns the Loser of the Year award in all respects because he's a selfish, self-centered and cowardly abuser of women and a drug-sucking manipulator with no redeeming qualities whatsoever. What's not to love, right? Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 It's the same one who has been the subject of all the drama. He earns the Loser of the Year award in all respects because he's a selfish, self-centered and cowardly abuser of women and a drug-sucking manipulator with no redeeming qualities whatsoever. What's not to love, right? Wow C your doing it again. makes me want to giggle. Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 I thought I was being quite reserved. After all, I didn't refer to him as a scum-sucking bottom dweller, Satan's spawn or the product of an incestuous union of snakes, did I? Link to post Share on other sites
Shattered Reality Posted February 3, 2007 Share Posted February 3, 2007 Didn't I read in another thread that he broke your arm? Shoved you into a door or something? You need to re-read your posts. All the things you say he does to you are not the signs of someone who loves you. Get out now! Link to post Share on other sites
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