Blue Phoenix Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 --"PS MY KIDS DONT LIVE WITH ME THEY ARE ADULTS. OF COURSE I WAS UPSET I BROKE SOMETHING THEY GAVE ME BUT I FELT LIKE IT TOOK AWAY SOMME OF THE BONDAGE"-- The bondage?? Im sorry I dont follow your train of thought on that one. Bondage of what it just makes no sence to me at all but then again not many of your posts do. Any ways just because your kids are grown ups dont you think that how you are behaving still afects them in some way?? Dont you think it prob hutrs them to see there mom being twisted and abused by this slime bag?? You honestly dont know how to get rid of him or you dont want to?? If you realy want this toxic dush bag out of your life then go get a restraning order on the fu*k tard and be done with it. Then when he voilates it call the cops and have his sorry ass taken away and locked up.Along with changeing all your numbers and NOT giveing them to him ever!! Thats one way of dealing with it but some how I dout you will. Sounds like hes brain washed you totaly I guess maybe its going to take him actualy seriously hurting you or who knowes maybe even worse for you to snap out of the la la land hes got you floating in. I do hope sincearly you get your self into some therapy and maybe even rehab to clear your mind and help you see stuff for how they realy are. I think you need him because he adds drama to your life and you have become addicted to it like a new drug. I just hope you do get out before he actualy dose hurt you wich from the stuff your saying isent far off. Would suck tho if he broke your arms then how could you post more brain washed drool about him...I 100% agree with the other posters take the time to go back and reread the stuff you put on here insted of just trying to valadate the loser in new posts. Go back read carefuly and think is this the man I realy want to spend my time around??? And god help you because you cirtinly need it!!! I guess in the end you have to choose do you like being a mentil midgit at the complete control of this sleeze bag?? and haveing no self love or respect what so ever?? Or would you rather be a well balanced mentily healthey happy positive person who can look foward to a stable and sucessfull future?? Me ide much rather the later of the 2 but hey if slime bags and drama are your thing then by all means go for it!! Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Just an observation, phoenix try using paragraphs, they are your friend. I gave up on reading your post after the first couple of sentences because there are none and probably most others will too... Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 --"incestuous union of snakes"-- Hey now dont be putting snakes down like that there a much higher form of life then this slime mold.. LoL Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Im not the only one guilty of not useing them cardplayer ive seen alot of posts much worse then mine.. But point taken I will try to rember from now on Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 5, 2007 Author Share Posted February 5, 2007 I thought I was being quite reserved. After all, I didn't refer to him as a scum-sucking bottom dweller, Satan's spawn or the product of an incestuous union of snakes, did I? Okay I took him to a motel andleft him there to his own demise. He was ungrateful and disrespectful. He conned me into staying for a while. I was so exhausted from his commands at my house I fell asleep. only to wake up to him freaking out in my face. Because he asked me a question in my sleep and I answered it honestly. I guess. I left Im home and he will not be back. I gave it my all I did and more. Was it worth it? I learned some things that I very well needed to. And as soon as I recover from this ordeal I will list just what I got out of this draining experience. His Mother threw him out, so he is homeless. But I told him to go to get GR. I cant support you. THis man is a very disturbed indivisual. He truly needs mental help and I hope he gets it. I just wanted to save him. But he was incourageable, ungrateful. I hope he makes it without killing himself. I will always care about him from a very long distance. NC after he picks his belongings up and I already told him to call first and then I will put them outside and leave and put a note telling him I had to run arrand. Wish me luck! I know I have to do this for myself. And prolly for him too. He needs to learn that nobody is responseable for him but himself. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 Wow, that's awesome I'm so proud of you!! Hope you get the strength to stand by your decision. And please allow yourself to get specialized abuse counseling so you can understand what it's about and how to avoid people like that in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 Oh honey this happens every couple of days. You finally accept what we are saying, tell him where to go and then comes another thread in like 2 days where you tell us you have taken him home, been in contact, had another blowout because you were taking him back in. You need to do something serious about this loser. You need to change your phone numbers. You need to change the locks. You need to tell him if he turns up at your doorstep and won't go away that he is trespassing and you will call the police. He is technically harrassing you. But before all of this, you need to accept that you are way too dependant on him. You seem to think this guy is the only one there for you and you have put up with more crap from him then nearly every person on this board has from their partners. Does it take him to punch you in the face before you will accept you are better off without him. You need to see a counsellor. You need to have someone other then the people on this board to talk you away from this guy. You need to figure out your feelings and have someone help you to accept that this relationship needs to be over. And NOW. Because things will not get better. You are becoming his doormat and all that will happen is he will screw you around for maybe 2 more months and then leave you for his ex, or someone else. And you will be left with emotional scars you could have avoided by facing up to the facts. Sorry if I seem abrupt but I am genuinly concerned about your emotional wellbeing. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 --"THis man is a very disturbed indivisual. He truly needs mental help and I hope he gets it"-- Finaly something that makes sence has come out of her mouth awsome I truely hope you mean what you say this time!! it wont be easey but in the long run its better for you. Do get your self into some counseling now like the other poster said. Congrats on finaly takeing some steps to free your self from the slime bag keep it up!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 5, 2007 Author Share Posted February 5, 2007 I know it has only been hours but seriously that is a good sign so far.Usually either I or him would have sent text or called one another. I feel no pain about this no guilt and I know that if I dont cut my ties I will lose out on this great job opportunity I have. God works in mysterious ways. And when one says "Shut doors that need to be shut and open those that need to be open." It happens! He slammed that door to my situation so quickly I knew I had to do something. And when I didnt follow suit and walked through that door over and over again. He opened a new one for me. And my thoughts were this. (Keep walking around the same dumb mountain? or take that single path that leads away from it to new and better days.) And when M opened his mouth and barked an order at me as I had that thought. The path became much wider and closer then I could ever imagine. Im headed down that path and I will not look back. I am sorry I put all of you through so much. And if it wasnt for all of you I may not have made it. Yes I know LS isnt a Dr. or Psych. But hell your a lot cheaper and better then you can all imagine. I will do NC 4ever. That will be my gift to all of you. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
IpAncA Posted February 5, 2007 Share Posted February 5, 2007 Glad you ended this whole thing with him. STICK with the NC and work on getting yourself back on track again . Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 6, 2007 Author Share Posted February 6, 2007 He called to come get his things I put them outside and left a note telling him I thought it was best if we didnt have any contact for any reason. That I have a new job opportunity coming up and I dont want nthing standing in my way. That he taught me a lot and that I wish him the best. And at the bottom just L. He called crying begging and pleading. I had my voice machine turned down so I didnt hear them til just now. And after calling me the fifth time and telling me all the sweet things he has from day one , and its been 4 hours of nothing. Im so grateful. I feel strong but still feel scared at the same time. Pray for me. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Just keep remembering what he has done to you if you feel the urge to go back with him, re-read your written accounts of it here if you need to Link to post Share on other sites
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted February 8, 2007 Author Share Posted February 8, 2007 Well he did come back and he went off on me slapped me around he had taken the key to my house without my knowledge. And when I didnt answer he used it. He destroyed my house by throwing food and stuff around. And slapped me and spit on me. He took the phone and smashed it. It was pretty scary. But he is now admitted into the mental hospital. I made him go after he calmed down. I am fine now. He will be there for a while they said so I will be moved by then. Just thought you might be interested. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 8, 2007 Share Posted February 8, 2007 Yes thanks for the update, I think it's great he's in the loony bin where he belongs! And it will give you time to recover from what he did. I think you should file a police complaint...and definitely get specialized abuse counselling. You can still have many years of good life ahead of you... Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well he did come back and he went off on me slapped me around he had taken the key to my house without my knowledge. And when I didnt answer he used it. He destroyed my house by throwing food and stuff around. And slapped me and spit on me. He took the phone and smashed it. It was pretty scary. But he is now admitted into the mental hospital. I made him go after he calmed down. I am fine now. He will be there for a while they said so I will be moved by then. Just thought you might be interested. Just so you know, psychiatric hospitalizations is exactly what I do. Please understand that whatever he tells you, he is not all better 10 days from now. If he talks you into being back with him while he's in the hospital, please don't tell us that. That would be better left to yourself as there would be nothing more we can say on the matter. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well he did come back and he went off on me slapped me around he had taken the key to my house without my knowledge. And when I didnt answer he used it. He destroyed my house by throwing food and stuff around. And slapped me and spit on me. He took the phone and smashed it. It was pretty scary. But he is now admitted into the mental hospital. I made him go after he calmed down. I am fine now. He will be there for a while they said so I will be moved by then. Just thought you might be interested. Next time he does that CALL 911!! Protect yourself, and in the meantime, get your locks changed. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well he did come back and he went off on me slapped me around he had taken the key to my house without my knowledge. And when I didnt answer he used it. He destroyed my house by throwing food and stuff around. And slapped me and spit on me. He took the phone and smashed it. It was pretty scary. But he is now admitted into the mental hospital. I made him go after he calmed down. I am fine now. He will be there for a while they said so I will be moved by then. Just thought you might be interested. Change the locks, change your phone numbers and refuse to speak to him. Get a restraining order put in place so that if he comes near you he will be arrested. You need to nip this in the bud and NOW, he needs to be cut out of your life before he lands you in hospital or worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Phoenix Posted February 11, 2007 Share Posted February 11, 2007 --"Change the locks, change your phone numbers and refuse to speak to him. Get a restraining order put in place so that if he comes near you he will be arrested. You need to nip this in the bud and NOW, he needs to be cut out of your life before he lands you in hospital or worse"-- I agree 100% The mentill hospital?? I agree he needs to be there but why the heck dident you have him arrested 1st?? I think there is much more that she hasent been telling us for fear of hearing what she may not want to but hey if im wrong and you realy are moveing away good for you!! Link to post Share on other sites
MJTig Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 he's in love with love and the excitement of breaking up and getting back together. That's no one to marry long term if he has the equivalent of RelationshipADD. Link to post Share on other sites
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