MM's Wife Annoys ME!

[motosexlover]

ok I'm back, IF ya don't knwo my story here is a quick recap, I have a baby from MM and he got back with his wife, so anyways the other day I got drop my son off to him on my way to work and guess who shows up to get my son?? yes! his wife does, first off she is not responsible for picking up my son, he is, he did not call me to say he couldn't get him and ask me if this was ok, and no where in our court records does it say she is allowed to get him, for all I didn't know she could of killed him then was there to get my son next. I didn't know how to handle the situation, I just got mad, my son was already throwing a fit cause he did not want to get off the car and then she shows her face, I've tried to be nice to her but she is a sassy girl, who gives a bad attitude, the attitude MM used to complain about when we dated! I asked her where he was she said he could not make it so I yelled at her that he needed to give me a courtesy call if she was gonna pick up the baby, she just gave me attitude and rolled her eyes, I eventually had to hand off my son to her so I could get to work, I called MM while I was driving off but of course he did not answer I called twice, no answer!

 

How should I of dealt with this?? I don't have to deal with her especially her dumb attitude, I can't believe how ballsy she is too! I want to tell him off the next time I see him!!

[herenow]

I would have a bad attitude too if I had to pick up a child that an OW had with my H while I was married to him. I'm sure her feelings for you are mutual except for the fact that you choose to have a MM's baby and there is nothing she did to deserve having you or your baby in her life. You should be thankful that she even allows your child to be part of her family.

[whichwayisup]

You need to put your son first. I'm sure it's hard for you, as well as it is on her, but you BOTH need to deal with eachother in an adult way. Forget the fighting, the ego stuff...

 

The MM needs to sit you BOTH down and ALL of you together figure out a way to make it work because of the child. If you all can't do that, then get used to living a stressful life with rollercoaster rides and emotions all over the place...Not too healthy for children.

[tinktronik]

Well you probably should'nt have started yelling in front of your son for starters . And two , you just said you had to go to work , so whats the big deal, if she had not showed you would not have been able to go to work .

[burning 4 revenge]

how does she know the baby is yours?

[vanilla chai]

Let me get this straight,you sleep with this woman's husband then end up having a baby with this guy and you don't want the wife involved.

 

You expect the wife to smile while you yell at her cause her husband didn't pick the kid up.

 

What nerve, your lucky she didn't bash your face in for your cocky attitude.

[reservoirdog1]

I would have a bad attitude too if I had to pick up a child that an OW had with my H while I was married to him. I'm sure her feelings for you are mutual except for the fact that you choose to have a MM's baby and there is nothing she did to deserve having you or your baby in her life. You should be thankful that she even allows your child to be part of her family.

Well said.

 

The sensation she experiences from even having to deal with you at all is no doubt similar to repeatedly wrenching open a deep wound and pouring in the salt.

 

If you have any conscience or class at all you'll cut her a truckload of slack.

[whichwayisup]

If you have any conscience or class at all you'll cut her a truckload of slack.

 

That and maybe show HER some respect, and you'll get it back from her. Babysteps....

 

You can either make the situation better or you can make it worse...It's up to YOU right now to make the nice move.

[Romeo Must Die]

I think she just wants to keep the two of you seperated and that is not unusual at all. Her husband is not your MM anymore. Secondly, anything you do or say to MM should be done in writing for legal reasons.

 

You people need to get it together for the babys sake. Find some help dealing with OC born of affairs and support for yourself. I'm sure a little baby can pick up on this frustration and this is not any good for him at all.

 

[puddleofmud]

First comment: how about NO YELLING in front of said "baby" !!!

 

No one is forced to hand their child "off" to anyone. If one so fears for the safety of their child than the excuse of having to go to work is just not an option.

Either work it out in a rational manner with your EX or through the court, but please do not transmit your anxiety to your child. YOU are in control of yourself, your child needs to feel your emotions in order to learn theirs.

Please, please, please (I am literally begging, here) stop the drama for the sake of your baby's well-being.

If you feel this woman is unstable, there is no legal right for her to have him alone without the Father, then don't let it happen.

Previously, you posted about this and were given a great deal of good advice...

At this point with your latest behavior, should you go back to court this could be held against you.

Think about that, please (again, I am begging).

[puddleofmud]

Let me get this straight,you sleep with this woman's husband then end up having a baby with this guy and you don't want the wife involved.

 

You expect the wife to smile while you yell at her cause her husband didn't pick the kid up.

 

What nerve, your lucky she didn't bash your face in for your cocky attitude.

 

VC: yes, I guess that would be the most successful manuever, bashing some one's face with a baby in the middle.

[tinktronik]

VC: yes, I guess that would be the most successful manuever, bashing some one's face with a baby in the middle.

You know , I guess weve all thought about it . Dosen't mean were going to do it though.

[Babybird]

I'm sure that seeing OW with her H's baby is still a shock. Like the others said cut her some slack. She didn't ask for any of this.

 

Although it makes you wonder why she is continuing her M and forgave(possibly) her H but can't forgive you(OW)?

 

It must be easier to hate the person you don't know, love, and feel betrayed by. It's all still fresh in her mind. Kill her with kindness as my mom always said. Hopefully it'll get easier.

[outofdarkness]

ok I'm back, IF ya don't knwo my story here is a quick recap, I have a baby from MM and he got back with his wife, so anyways the other day I got drop my son off to him on my way to work and guess who shows up to get my son?? yes! his wife does, first off she is not responsible for picking up my son, he is, he did not call me to say he couldn't get him and ask me if this was ok, and no where in our court records does it say she is allowed to get him, for all I didn't know she could of killed him then was there to get my son next. I didn't know how to handle the situation, I just got mad, my son was already throwing a fit cause he did not want to get off the car and then she shows her face, I've tried to be nice to her but she is a sassy girl, who gives a bad attitude, the attitude MM used to complain about when we dated! I asked her where he was she said he could not make it so I yelled at her that he needed to give me a courtesy call if she was gonna pick up the baby, she just gave me attitude and rolled her eyes, I eventually had to hand off my son to her so I could get to work, I called MM while I was driving off but of course he did not answer I called twice, no answer!

 

How should I of dealt with this?? I don't have to deal with her especially her dumb attitude, I can't believe how ballsy she is too! I want to tell him off the next time I see him!!

try not to put your son in the middle. I agree with the poster who said that anything said or done involving your son should be done through the courts. She shouldn't be involved in your son's care..period. You should have expected some backlash when you decided to have your MM's baby, but he is here and can't help the circumstances surrounding his birth..good luck

[pricillia]

Let me get this straight,you sleep with this woman's husband then end up having a baby with this guy and you don't want the wife involved.

vanilla chai 1072318, take a sip and spit it out... not so sweet to me

 

You expect the wife to smile while you yell at her cause her husband didn't pick the kid up.

 

What nerve, your lucky she didn't bash your face in for your cocky attitude.

 

 

yes you got it straight that is what she said in her original post..

 

"the wife" is his wife and the "kid" is thier child

 

 

As if someone has emotions towards a situation reguarding her child.

 

Bashing people's face in or running them over with a bus is not the option, if that is the case then you should be the first voulenteer.

 

oh just kidding.

[NoIDidn't]

I asked her where he was she said he could not make it so I yelled at her that he needed to give me a courtesy call if she was gonna pick up the baby, she just gave me attitude and rolled her eyes, I eventually had to hand off my son to her so I could get to work, I called MM while I was driving off but of course he did not answer I called twice, no answer!

 

Why you yelled at her over HIM not showing up is beyond me! Do you really think SHE even wanted to be there getting a child that in her mind shouldn't exist (had her H been faithful, he wouldn't)?

 

This is a tough situation for all, but you have the easiest part, IMO. Your, I'm assuming, xMM didn't even answer your calls. Is it possible that YOUR attitude about having his son and acting like you just made an act of Congress in trying to cut his W out of having anything to do with his child is turning him off? Cut the woman some slack, like imagine what YOU would do in HER shoes. She certainly could have left you, your attitude and yelling, and your son behind and you would have had to figure something else out.

 

And what's up with the whole "she's gonna harm my child" accusations? If you were so worried about that, you wouldn't have left your child with her. Stop looking for ways to make her the problem.

[VinaAmez]

Okay I went and read what happend. Didn't want to make a fool out of myself.

 

You REALLY don't want HER in the picture do you? Sorry but she's not going anywhere and you need to realize and understand that. IMO I think you also need to stop taking your anger out on here and thinking that she is the problem. You can't even imagine what she is going though right now unless you've been cheated on.

 

I do think that you all need to sit down like someone else suggested. Come to some sort of an aggreement and STICK to it.

 

Do you really think she is going to harm your child? Regardless of who picks him up, she's going to be around the kid. Would you have minded if they both came together and picked your child up?

 

Let me get this straight,you sleep with this woman's husband then end up having a baby with this guy and you don't want the wife involved.

 

You expect the wife to smile while you yell at her cause her husband didn't pick the kid up.

 

What nerve, your lucky she didn't bash your face in for your cocky attitude.

 

Agree and yes I would agree with you OP when you said you shouldn't date MM. This is one of the reasons why.

 

I agree with the poster who said that anything said or done involving your son should be done through the courts.

 

I agree here too.

 

Good luck and try to calm down a bit.

[vanilla chai]

VC: yes, I guess that would be the most successful manuever, bashing some one's face with a baby in the middle.

 

I never said it was right,but look at it this way. The ow who has a baby with her husband has to go and pickup the kid while ow is being rude and nasty. Is this woman suppose to smile and let ow scream at her?

[vanilla chai]

yes you got it straight that is what she said in her original post..

 

"the wife" is his wife and the "kid" is thier child

 

 

As if someone has emotions towards a situation reguarding her child.

 

Bashing people's face in or running them over with a bus is not the option, if that is the case then you should be the first voulenteer.

 

oh just kidding.

 

Well how about the ow showing this bw a little repect. Isn't that better than bashing her face in.

[RecordProducer]

How should I of dealt with this??

Exactly the way you did: to get upset, to feel helpless, and not know how to react. Had you reacted in a different way (like knocking her down with an umbrella), it wouldn't have been a good scene... in front of your son.

 

Where did she come to get your son? I think you need to talk to someone, like a social worker or an attorney about what your exact rights in this situation are. But most of all, you should resolve this with your ex. She might not kill your son, but she certainly won't risk her life to rescue him if he runs straight in front of a truck in the street. He is definitely much safer with his parents than with her, especially since she has this attitude.

[bellababygirl]

I m currently pregnant by my MM. So, I dont have that type of situation to deal with exactly. My oldest son, however, his father married a woman and she is great. My ex and his new W never want any children whatsoever...but, she is good to my son. Actually, I like her better than my ex to be honest with you.

 

She even comes to see him without my ex. So, I have to say I support fully anyone who is a loving and positive influence in children's lives. If your MM didnt go back to his BW and had another OW would you feel any differently?

 

I would welcome any effort made on behalf of the current mate of my child's father to further their relationship and time together....afterall, it is about the child and father's relationshiop...yes?

[Blue Phoenix]

--"How should I of dealt with this?? I don't have to deal with her especially her dumb attitude, I can't believe how ballsy she is too! I want to tell him off the next time I see him!!"-- Um shes kidding right this is some kind of wierd joke right??? Let me get this right you slept with her husband had a baby with him all behind her back. And now your pissed because she gives you a bad attitude?? Shes looking her husbands infadelities in the eye every time she sees your son much less you. Ide personaly give the women a ton of credit for even still being marryed to the guy. Plus putting up with you and haveing anything to do with the child. The only one I feel any simpathey for in this situation is the kid. Who has to grow up in a life situation torn like that between his mom dad and daddys other wife. Must be confuseing for the poor little guy. But oh well hey what ever makes us feel good at the moment right?? Who cares who gets hurt or who gets cheated on or what the end result may be..

[RecordProducer]

And now your pissed because she gives you a bad attitude?? Shes looking her husbands infadelities in the eye every time she sees your son much less you. Ide personaly give the women a ton of credit for even still being marryed to the guy. Plus putting up with you and haveing anything to do with the child. The only one I feel any simpathey for in this situation is the kid. Who has to grow up in a life situation torn like that between his mom dad and daddys other wife. Must be confuseing for the poor little guy. But oh well hey what ever makes us feel good at the moment right?? Who cares who gets hurt or who gets cheated on or what the end result may be..

You are totally right! I didn't think of the whole picture.

 

It's actually difficult for all of them. The wife didn't have to take him back, the MM didn't have to cheat, the OW didn't have to sleep with a MM.

 

And after all, she didn't have to have his child. Surprisingly all American women are frantically against abortion when they are in love with the father. However I haven't heard of one single case where a woman had a child from someone she didn't love. Or if she wanted to go to college or pursue a career, she has no problem with having an abortion. Funny how the moral standards are directed by our intimate desires.

 

Of course it's too late to talk about this particular case, but perhaps the tabboo of abortion should be reviewed by this quasi-puritanistic society for the sake of all those children who will be conceived in affairs or will be condemned to live without fathers.

 

Frankly, if I were against abortion and didn't want to have a child, I'd stop f*cking altogether except during my period. If 30 minutes of pleasure can impose an unsolicited lifetime responsibility on my back - then it's not worth it. I've had two abortions andI admit I was totally careless in both cases. Same with all women I know who've had an abortion. I know for sure that if I wanted to protect myself from pregnancy 200%, I would know how to do it.

[erika2610]

You are totally right! I didn't think of the whole picture.

 

It's actually difficult for all of them. The wife didn't have to take him back, the MM didn't have to cheat, the OW didn't have to sleep with a MM.

 

And after all, she didn't have to have his child. Surprisingly all American women are frantically against abortion when they are in love with the father. However I haven't heard of one single case where a woman had a child from someone she didn't love. Or if she wanted to go to college or pursue a career, she has no problem with having an abortion. Funny how the moral standards are directed by our intimate desires.

 

Of course it's too late to talk about this particular case, but perhaps the tabboo of abortion should be reviewed by this quasi-puritanistic society for the sake of all those children who will be conceived in affairs or will be condemned to live without fathers.

 

Frankly, if I were against abortion and didn't want to have a child, I'd stop f*cking altogether except during my period. If 30 minutes of pleasure can impose an unsolicited lifetime responsibility on my back - then it's not worth it. I've had two abortions andI admit I was totally careless in both cases. Same with all women I know who've had an abortion. I know for sure that if I wanted to protect myself from pregnancy 200%, I would know how to do it.

 

Abortion is not a form of birth control. Besides, this is just going to turn into another abortion thread, which we don't need.

[Blue Phoenix]

I just wanted to clear something up I def wasent meaning to say or insinuate that I thought this women should have gotten a abortion. Just that its sad that this child and maney more are brought into this world like this. By people who dont take the time or dont care to think of the end results of there actions. Or who may have to suffer in some form because of it as well.--"Abortion is not a form of birth control"-- I agree 100% while I do suport a womens right to choose I think that its all to often used as a easy out for people who again dident think who would be getting hurt by there actions..