tui1987 Posted February 2, 2007 Share Posted February 2, 2007 Me and my bf went out for his birthday 2 saturdays ago...his ex who i will call jon (who he is still friends with) came along and so did his cousin(jan)..the night went on...and jon was flirting way too much with my bf as far as i was concerned. i text jan telling her i feel really uncomortable at the mo and that i wanted to knock jon out. whicih i admit i shouldn't have said but i was getting annoyed. i said to her as well that i wanted to cry and that i give up. she agreed with me that jon was all over him...so i spoke to my bf about it when we were alone and he told me that i was right, jon was flirting too much and it's not fair on me. turns out that jon is generally very flirtatious and does it with everyone. so i got over it in a heartbeat. anyway the next day my bf's housemate (tina) wanted me to get out of the house and go home. she thinks i was insensitive and wrong to have text jan instead of going straight to my bf. it was his night and he was having a good night...i didn't want to ruin it..plus he was drunk and when he's drunk it's hard to explain thigs to the guy cos he doesn't listen.. anyway...my bf went to work and then came home saying that it's over between us. he said this because number one he can't bare the atmosphere between me and his housemate. number two he thinks that i'm always going to be jealous whenever jon is around and he doesn't want the trouble. i kept saying to him that it was my first time out with jon being there and i never knew what he was like. i never liked wot i saw and i explained that to him..but now i know i'm not going to stress myself out and go thru the whole jealousy thing again...especially if it causes the problems it causes. but he wasn't having it..he's made his bed and now he has to lie in it. the next day i was in his house on my own and i was getting ready to go home. i wrote him a note from the heart telling him how much i'm going to miss him etc...and he emailed me sayingthank you for the note it meant a lot and he will always keep it with him. then he told me he still loves me and always will..and that he feels really bad about it and just wants to cry and who knows what will happen in the future... i was doing the whole NC thing as well...then he text me a few days later at 2 in the morning to tell me that his friend has gone in hospital...i didn't know what to say..i told him i was sorry and that i'm here if he needs to talk or needs to help..but why did he contact me...he's got plenty of other really close friends he could have told.... i'm currently abroad because a family member has died and i'm pretty cut up about it. we spoke today on msn about us...something i haven't told you is that he is HIV+. I knew about this before we got together...anyway today we were talking and he said to me at least i can go out and get it (sex) whenever i want...i went into this whole thing about him being a lovely person and i'm sure he'll find his true star...the one who will love him for him etc...and i was trying to show him that that person was me...he said thank you and that i'm a true friend and that i will always be the one he turns to and that he will always love me. anyway went on about the break up and how it happened. and i told him that it was hard because at the end of the day the dumpee has no say in the matter whatsoever and he said he's really sorry and that he changed his mind so many times and wasn't sure. so why has he dumped me??? if he wasn't sure why has he done it...i'm going thru a really rough time at the moment and when my cousin died the first person i thought of the comfort me was him...i want him back so bad but don't knw how to approach it...we will see eachother because we have the same friends.... thoughts/ideas please.. Link to post Share on other sites
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