Guest Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 i will tell u what a freaking addiction looks like - i have no watched one single porn video in over 6 or 7 months - and the reason why that was easy [even though someone keeps pounding my arse about the past] is because anne told me, showed me how important that was to her and how it had hurt us and her health - so, piece of cake - stuff like that is never a problem because i believe in her and i want to show her that i am not someone that just complains and mopes and bitches = i listen to her, she is more important - i want her to see [but she doesn't] and she doesn't respond in kind - see, look at the porn issue - she told me - i acted - end of issue - u can put that one to bed. compare that with WHEN IT IS SOMETHING THAT IS IMPORTANT TO ME, say something, like porn, that impacts us both, in every way, compare that with something even more dangerous, something life treatenbing, say like a cocaine addiction that has twice spun out of control and i ask her to simply say four words, and she doesn't even have to say them to me, it could have been in an email, voice message - in person is the magic bullet - this would take oh 4 seconds? and i asked for that 4 months ago - gee, nice comparision - that spent money could have been with eduacation, meds, housing, trips, health - etc. instead, i hung on as long as i could, for a real sign, 4 words! 4 seconds to do so, and an unbelievable opportunity to really start a new relationship the right way - show trust and love nothing i hope people do the comparison realizing i am saying this not to hurt, not being cruel just pointing out the extreme gag here nite Link to post Share on other sites
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