Guest Posted February 4, 2007 Share Posted February 4, 2007 Hi everyone! I really hope you guys can give me some advice. There is this guy that I work with who I think is totally gorgeous. He just recently started working with us and when I first met him I thought he was about 19 or 20 yrs old. (I'm 17) So naturally, I was really attracted to him. He flirts with me a lot, tells me I'm beautiful, etc. For a while I was seriously considering dating him. Unfortunately I just found out that he is actually 28 years old and married!!! But the problem is...he still keeps flirting with me like crazy and I'm still completely attracted to him. If he came on to me, I don't know if I could say no. (and he looks like he's so much younger!) My friend told me that marraige doesn't mean anything nowadays, and that sleeping with a married guy is not a big deal. Besides, he "might not be in a happy marriage." I know it's wrong and I shouldn't do it, but he is so hot. So how do I avoid making such a big mistake? How can I stop myself from being attracted to him? I'm not emotionally strong enough to resist him, you know what I mean? Should I just avoid him? I'm so confused... Link to post Share on other sites
Anka Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Quit your job. Stay away from this guy. Your friend has no idea what she is talking about. It is a VERY big deal to sleep with anyone. And sleeping with a MM, and one so much older, is definatly a huge deal. Stay away from this man. He is only out for himself. If you do anything with him, it will only cause you pain. GET SOME NEW FRIENDS. The one you have is a ****ing moron. Link to post Share on other sites
erika2610 Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Hi everyone! I really hope you guys can give me some advice. There is this guy that I work with who I think is totally gorgeous. He just recently started working with us and when I first met him I thought he was about 19 or 20 yrs old. (I'm 17) So naturally, I was really attracted to him. He flirts with me a lot, tells me I'm beautiful, etc. For a while I was seriously considering dating him. Unfortunately I just found out that he is actually 28 years old and married!!! But the problem is...he still keeps flirting with me like crazy and I'm still completely attracted to him. If he came on to me, I don't know if I could say no. (and he looks like he's so much younger!) My friend told me that marraige doesn't mean anything nowadays, and that sleeping with a married guy is not a big deal. Besides, he "might not be in a happy marriage." I know it's wrong and I shouldn't do it, but he is so hot. So how do I avoid making such a big mistake? How can I stop myself from being attracted to him? I'm not emotionally strong enough to resist him, you know what I mean? Should I just avoid him? I'm so confused... Avoid him. Quit if you can't. I don't even know what to say about your friends advice. But I'm assuming she's young too. The worst thing you can ever do is to fall for this man and do anything with him. Doesn't matter how hot he is. And even if he does tell you he's in an unhappy marriage, it's probably a lie. Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 I have to agree with the others. He is up to no good and you're headed for a world of hurt if you actually hook up with this guy. First of all, you're a minor. Second, he's married. Third, you work with him. I have been hit on by guys who are in a relationship etc. I don't understand why! Its honestly a big pet peeve of mine. I don't care if they are attractive or not, I know enough to know that its wrong! Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Oh my. Adult life is going to hit you like a ton of bricks dear. Link to post Share on other sites
VinaAmez Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 There is this guy that I work with who I think is totally gorgeous. He just recently started working with us and when I first met him I thought he was about 19 or 20 yrs old. (I'm 17) So naturally, I was really attracted to him. He flirts with me a lot, tells me I'm beautiful, etc. For a while I was seriously considering dating him. Unfortunately I just found out that he is actually 28 years old and married!!! But the problem is...he still keeps flirting with me like crazy and I'm still completely attracted to him. If he came on to me, I don't know if I could say no. (and he looks like he's so much younger!) He's married, leave taken men alone. Stick with single guys and guys your age. My friend told me that marraige doesn't mean anything nowadays, and that sleeping with a married guy is not a big deal. Besides, he "might not be in a happy marriage." I know it's wrong and I shouldn't do it, but he is so hot. So how do I avoid making such a big mistake? How can I stop myself from being attracted to him? I'm not emotionally strong enough to resist him, you know what I mean? Should I just avoid him? I'm so confused... It's no big deal? Sleep with my H and then tell me it's no big deal. Okay so he's hot, yeah yeah yeah....heard it all. Leave him alone and if he keeps on flirting with you tell him to stop or look for another job. Your only 17 so I'm assuming this isn't perminant. And yes he may not be in a good marriage, but that doesn't mean it's an all go to do anything with him. He needs to figure out his own crap and you need to stay out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
dgiirl Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 My friend told me that marraige doesn't mean anything nowadays, and that sleeping with a married guy is not a big deal. Say you were his wife. Would it be a BIG deal? Say he breaks up with his current wife and starts dating you, and he starts flirting and doing the same thing with someone else, would it be a BIG deal? I dont know how you can be attracted to someone who willing hurts someone he's suppose to love? If he was truly in an unhappy marriage, he'd GET OUT, otherwise he's just a user and a lier. You really want that for a bf? Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 Run like hell away from this guy... He will chew and grind you up and then spit you back out. Link to post Share on other sites
hunnybuns Posted February 6, 2007 Share Posted February 6, 2007 He is playing with fire. For one thing you are only 17. But then again I have a MM that is 26 older than I am. Well I will tell you this sweetheart...if you start to get involved with him be prepared for a long road of dissapointment, pain, hurt, anger, frustration. All because then again you would be the OW and he will always use you for sex but go back to the W. Trust me on this.......I know what I am talking about. Yeah maybe he is hot and would be amazing in the sack......but remember also you have to work with him....and that just makes things weird. SO my advice is talk to him and be nice but DO NOT MAKE IT KNOWN that you want him because you are young and vulnerable....he will take advantage of that. Link to post Share on other sites
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