She's soooo sensitive...too sensitive

[sb129]

You HAVE to confront her about it.

Otherwise this is going to destroy your relationship. And thats your passiveness as well as her razorsharp tongue.

As long as you continue to do nothing, she will continue to say stuff like that to you.

 

She HAS TO KNOW how much of an effect this has on you.

Too bad if she is hypersensitive- if you can give it out you should be able to take it right?

If she truly loves you, she will LISTEN to you and how her behaviour makes you feel, and try to work it out with you. Sure, she might get offended initially, but your feelings should be important to her.

 

Print out some of these posts, write a couple of things down when she says them to you....not as "ammo" but to enforce your points.

She may be genuinely surprised when confronted with them just how awful they sound when replayed to her.

 

DOn't start with "You do this...YOU never do that..."

 

Say "I feel like this when this happens" its not as accusatory, and allows for more discussion rather than defensive comebacks.

[beave]

I've often thought, regarding her, that she can sure dish it out but she can't take it. I've told her that too. She can't take it, she is soooooooooo thin skinned but I'm tired of walking on egg shells around her. It's just sooo unfair.

 

I'm almost sure that if I discussed these issues with her as eloquently as possible, given her nature and frequent closed mindedness, she probably would shut down or tell me to take a hike which is how I'm feeling anyway. That doesn't mean I'm not going to try to talk to her about all this, I am.

 

She can be very defensive by nature and often has her guard up. I did think about writing down some great points that have come up in this thread and there are so many that I would have to write them down. Thing is that, knowing her, if she saw a list in my hand that I was reading points off of, she would probably flip. That's how she is. I sure as hell wouldn't tell her they're points off of an internet thread I started about her and I and our problems. I would have to tell her that they are my own thoughts that I jotted down to talk to her about and that I wanted to address each thought because they are regarding important points in our relationship.

[sb129]

Beave, if two people truly love eachother they should be able to let the other one know if they are unhappy without fear of one "flipping".

 

And also, if you love someone you love all of them, including the bits you aren't crazy about, however, there should be more good than bad!

 

We have agreed tht your GF has major issues, however she has to be confronted, she can't just blindly go thru life assuming her behaviour is OK.

Maybe its not your role to show her... maybe it is I don't know.

 

Maybe she will flip out initially, then she may digest everything and communicate with you how she feels about everything.

 

Anyway, bottom line is, you can't go on as a couple like this forever.

something has to give, and you need to talk to her.