Jinxx Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 Serious question here. Is this all you want? I mean this is what you want out of a relationship? Not to be mean, but surely you deserve more than that. Like someone who compelety adores you. He is pretty much XMM now. Of course I want more. Who wouldn't? Obviously he is lacking something in his marriage otherwise he wouldn't have hit on me. The connection/attraction or whatever you want to call it was there. We were both consenting adults that were lacking the physcial attention we desired in our marriages. I am just as guilty as he was only I chose to do something by leaving my marriage. I fell in love with him -- wasn't my intent but hey, it happened. My doing, my problem. He is a good man, he has a good wife. Had she met his physical needs, i.e, him not having to beg for sex once a week and settling for a "pitty f*ck", he wouldn't have sought comfort elsewhere. Link to post Share on other sites
pricillia Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 Or it could be that he was absusive to me and put me in the hospital while I was pregnant. Hence why I was afraid to just walk out. My OM probably saved my life. You dont have to get all bitchy because you dont like what I have to say. I am not getting bitchy, my point is you had a person in your life(OM) that was key to your survival right? My point is that your relationship with your husband failed for a very sad reason.. right? My point is also that sometimes people come into your life for a reason and they are needed at that time and sometimes they stay in your life and the relationship grows. I am not saying that you should not be happy and that you did not go through things to get where you are today.. OM and OW may be going through similar things, they may have a need for something that is missing, in your case in was a nurturing relationship... Link to post Share on other sites
Audero Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 I can't believe how the original quote got misinterpreted. LOL No kiddin. These are the ones who get defensive and bury their heads in the sand. I never said the W is to blame, but they couldn't get past the part of me once being an OW. What's "stupid" is W who are in denial about something being wrong in their marriage (MARRIAGE, ladies - NOT saying you wives), and choose to pretend it was all flowers & sunshine until some evil OW came along. Link to post Share on other sites
Audero Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 Well isn't it nice that there are women like you to provide married men with what they claim they aren't getting at home! Hey, I bet you could even make a decent living as that type of service provider. When you actually read enough of my posts, starting with the very first one here, and have a small clue what you are talking about, get back with me. Until then, you just sound like a bitter shrew, lashing out at anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 What's "stupid" is W who are in denial about something being wrong in their marriage (MARRIAGE, ladies - NOT saying you wives), and choose to pretend it was all flowers & sunshine until some evil OW came along. No dear, what's stupid is believing some married mans lies and feeling like it's your job to give him whatever his wife isn't. Or more than likely, what he SAYS she isn't. So now that I have read your background a bit, do you recommend getting involved with a married man? How'd that work out for you? Is it something you'd want for your daughter? Link to post Share on other sites
Audero Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 No dear, what's stupid is believing some married mans lies and feeling like it's your job to give him whatever his wife isn't. Or more than likely, what he SAYS she isn't. Single men lie too. As do women. Sometimes we are fooled, sometimes we aren't. I never said I felt it was my job to give him what he lacked in his marriage. Try to refrain from putting words in my mouth. READ what I have posted, and maybe you will catch up. So now that I have read your background a bit, do you recommend getting involved with a married man? How'd that work out for you? Is it something you'd want for your daughter?Well, "dear", had you paid attention to what you say that you read, you would know that my ex MM lied to start with, otherwise I would not have gotten involved. Furthermore, you would know that I am not advocating A's. Find one post where I said I did. Link to post Share on other sites
Impudent Oyster Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 You knew he was still married, you just thought he wasn't living with his wife. As far as I'm concerned, still married is off-limits, I don't care if he lives on the moon. Oh and, the fact that you're trying to justify affairs by claiming that something is wrong in a marriage is an obvious indication that you think a troubled marriage gives you a green light. IT DOESN'T. Link to post Share on other sites
Audero Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 You knew he was still married, you just thought he wasn't living with his wife. As far as I'm concerned, still married is off-limits, I don't care if he lives on the moon. Oh and, the fact that you're trying to justify affairs by claiming that something is wrong in a marriage is an obvious indication that you think a troubled marriage gives you a green light. IT DOESN'T. Still married, on-the-way-to-divorce. Difference to me. And no, dear, I wasn't "trying to justify" anything. I simply state the truth. It happened, had I known then what I do now, I wouldn't have gotten involved. I don't approve of, or condone affairs (when the people are still living together). If they are separated, and divorcing, that is entirely different. But you keep right on trying to put words in my mouth. Link to post Share on other sites
Babybird Posted February 14, 2007 Share Posted February 14, 2007 You knew he was still married, you just thought he wasn't living with his wife. As far as I'm concerned, still married is off-limits, I don't care if he lives on the moon. Oh and, the fact that you're trying to justify affairs by claiming that something is wrong in a marriage is an obvious indication that you think a troubled marriage gives you a green light. IT DOESN'T. So if the divorce takes three years because they are arguing over kids, money, possessions etc. then dating is off limits? Thats BS. Why should they wait until the final stamp? You have NO idea what is going on in the MM head. How could you? You're so jaded all you do is insult people and that's it. Oh wait...or is that supposed to be advice? Calling people stupid. Wow. I think you should be a marriage counselor. Just because its an A doesn't mean there can't be real feelings involved, including love. No matter who lies to whom. Hey troubled marriage, he goes wonderin, sounds like a green light to me. Monogomy is BS anyway. In this time no one stays together forever. But before you say it I guess that would be my fault. Women like me that are willing to screw other womens husbands has been the demise of marriage in general. Right....and a pigs going to fly out of my ass. Link to post Share on other sites
MoonGirl Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Oyster, I agree that getting involved with married people isn't wise, but sometimes divorces take a LONG time. It will be a year before the local court even starts ours (at least that's what I've been told)... Assuming that's the case, it may be 2+ years before the papers are final. So you think I should not be allowed to date because my divorce isn't final from an H who broke every vow he said, because I finally decided to leave after being beaten, humiliated, and beaten some more? Life is not black and white... Link to post Share on other sites
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