would you forgive?

[VeryMAD]

My g/f of 4 years cheated on me 3 months ago, with one of her "friends." I'm 20 and shes 18, this guy she messed around with is 16. Doesn't that sound off? Why would my g/f go and mess around with some younger guy when she has a MAN like me, how come it wasn't someone like my age, this kid probably doesn't even have facial hair yet, OMG. Anyways my g/f has always been there for me, she has bent over backwards for our relationship, she has always given it her 110%.

 

So 3 months ago this guy from her work started his first day at her job, she found him attractive. She said they were friends for about a month which sounds about right; I had found some text in her phone talking about how well they got along and how much she liked him. I orginally thought it was her friend telling my g/f about a guy, and in my head I was thinking "WOW thats F-ed up this guy is getting played." Well it was me fixing to get played. So 3 days after she cheated on me she told me, I sensed it to the fullest, I remember laying in my bed and she finally came home in the morning.

 

She had this guilty look on her face, she couldn't hide it, and she was being distant. When she finally confessed I kept asking her what had happened and she couldn't recall anything, there have been times where her and I have been drinking together and she would ask me what happened last night, that kinda of "crap." So she kept going crazy and telling me that she couldn't remember ANYTHING except them chatting; she used him as a vent because we had been fighting. This guy has a G/F or, Wife, and has a kid. She cried her heart out and it seemed to me that she got REALLY drunk and if she can't remember S()()T she got plastered.

 

When shes going through a lot she will drink everything away. She has always without question told me where she was going and what she was doing. So to this day I dont even know if the little bit she told me was true. I just wanted to briefly explain my situation. My question is, has anyone been in a similar situation where the bf or gf worked things out??! I know things can be worked out, but gaining trust is very difficult. The only light I see is her confessing to me so soon, she told me that she couldn't hide it from me and she had to tell me. Does anyone think there is hope in rebuilding everything, .... please any advice

[verymad]

well given these circumstances, my g/f for the most part has been there and been honest. She has always put me first and many times blown off her friends. I was shocked that she even brought up being unfaithful so soon, but I also thought she would never do anything like this. Its hard to live with it but I forgive her.

 

She cried her heart out and erased every male in her phone, even some of her closest friends, I didn't ask her to either. Before all this she told me that she couldn't live without me; and I know just because someone tells you they are going to give you the world doesn't mean they are going to do it. I also feel like if shes in-love with me why did she let it get to a "level" that it should have never reached?!!? PLEASE ANY ADVICE, should I continue to work things out or should I move on to better things?