a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Not my H but his new business partner...... I think he is trying to have an EA with my H. Why? The new partner says things to me like " I know how to communicate with your H" Telling my friends he barely knows " I cannot wait until Friday and I see _______ on Friday" Telling my friends "__________ is so great!" I mean this is constant behavior for the last month or so. Not worried about my H and his reaction...... but it is so obvious to me this guy is a little light in the loafers (not that there is anything wrong with that) but married and seems to run to my H at the drop of a hat. If you met him you would all think " hummmm I think he might be gay" So h is aware of my thoughts but I swear this guy is going to attempt to meddle to steal my H....... LMAO..... not that it would happen, but sheesh, I am not in the mood to deal with this at all................ So what do I do? Call the closeted partner out on this? He is getting into our personal life....... like I said talking to my friend about my H...... saying things that are way out there and really not true. He is acting all "giddy" about my H and telling my friends all about him...... weird......... whats up with this scenario? The dude doesn't shut up. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Maybe your H needs to let his new business partner know upfront they need to discuss business only, and that he doesn't care to discuss personal issues with him? Does this new guy seem to be a pretty good business partner? If your hubby is good looking, which I think I saw a pic of him sometime back(so yeah he is:D ) then his new business partner probably is attracted to him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Maybe your H needs to let his new business partner know upfront they need to discuss business only, and that he doesn't care to discuss personal issues with him? Does this new guy seem to be a pretty good business partner? If your hubby is good looking, which I think I saw a pic of him sometime back(so yeah he is:D ) then his new business partner probably is attracted to him. well just got off the phone with H........ told him business chatter only. The "dude" was chatting about nonsense at 9:45 last night with the H, as soon as we got home. I nixxed that with a humor comment. H rarely discusses anything personal at work...... nor do I. But this guy grills people, constantly asking questions "if you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?" Deep questions....... not "guy like" at all...... hell he makes me go most the time...... gay gay gay gay gay! If he can up our cash flow I may consider letting them date! He actually has a friend of mine doing work for him, and he totally told a tale to her about me..... nothing bad...... but quite untrue. Something I never said to him, or even considered, never even thought about........ weird. Intruder alert...... Intruder Alert...... whoop whoop whoop whoop! Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 But this guy grills people, constantly asking questions "if you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?" Maybe he just needs a friend? If he can up our cash flow I may consider letting them date! He actually has a friend of mine doing work for him, and he totally told a tale to her about me..... nothing bad...... but quite untrue. Something I never said to him, or even considered, never even thought about........ weird. Even if he was a great business partner, sounds like he could really cause some problems. I'm not sure what to tell you, but just makes sure this guy knows up front that he discusses business only, and ya'll's personal stuff is off limits for him. You could confront him about what he said to your friend and see what he has to say? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Why don't you talk to your husband about it, and have him draw the line with his partner??? I don't understand why it always has to be you getting involved.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 ehhhh....... this is my marriage not yours..... I also make business decisons and take the majority of responsibility and initiative comes from me. It works for us. Some people are leaders..... others are followers. My H asks for and wants input..... we are a partnership, same as I ask him his opinion and ideas....... partnership. I am just quicker to react and more aware, able to see it from different angles more quickly. And need to nip this gossip guy in the bud before it has a snowball effect on the new biz and our reputation is also effected by his mouthy ways. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 But this guy grills people, constantly asking questions "if you were a tree, what kind of tree would you be?" Uhmm, HOW old is this guy? That IS girlish and quite teenagerish too. Let the guy be a little puppy dog, talking away. Your husband however doesn't have to engage in personal conversations (meaning his life outside of work) with him - But it is unfair to tell the guy 'business only' when it's obvious he's a chatty Cathy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Uhmm, HOW old is this guy? That IS girlish and quite teenagerish too. Let the guy be a little puppy dog, talking away. Your husband however doesn't have to engage in personal conversations (meaning his life outside of work) with him - But it is unfair to tell the guy 'business only' when it's obvious he's a chatty Cathy. I know, see that is the problem..... he is fragile and to tell him to "shut up" "none of your business" does not give this guy the cookie he is begging for..... Yes - very girlish..... high schooly (word?) I swear he is gay... and I have never seen this guy get so personally involved as he is with my H... or is trying to..... so odd. oh gak...... I know all about his wife, his therapy, his book club, his time off....... and he expects some sort of a "sharing moment". Now is wanting to socialize as well..... I am running out of the "we are too busy excuses". He also bad mouths people.... but he has some awesome connections that could really be exploited for our benefit. Hell I was on the phone with him for almost an hour 2 weeks ago. Time is money to me as well.... don't chatter at work. Get the job done and collect the cash......then chat as much as you like. - just not with me. H is not a chatter at all..... but if you do not answer it seems he assumes things and puts words into your mouth. See I hooked him up with my long time friend of 10+ years for a job he needed done... ends up telling her something I said about her that I never said...... never....... never even crossed my mind...... ever. He only just met her and that is only over the phone...... never in person......... even chatted to her in detail about my H..... like they were brothers or something. Freakin' weird....... I thought we just got rid of the kitchen chicken.... which that drama has exploded at this point........ we are running as fast as our feet can carry us away from that situation. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Ask this guy if he loves shopping. Then you'll know for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Uhmm, HOW old is this guy? That IS girlish and quite teenagerish too. Let the guy be a little puppy dog, talking away. Your husband however doesn't have to engage in personal conversations (meaning his life outside of work) with him - But it is unfair to tell the guy 'business only' when it's obvious he's a chatty Cathy. He is about 40 or going on 41 I forgot which. Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Ask this guy if he loves shopping. Then you'll know for sure. hangs out at the bookstore and has his glass of wine....... walks around the mall with his wife. Knows what Prada is. Is very aware of his own fashion. but plays hockey....... oh he is such a contradiction! I swear he is in love with my H..... so friggin weird. Never experienced this before. New one on me. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Wow, a true renaissance man! Link to post Share on other sites
Author a4a Posted February 9, 2007 Author Share Posted February 9, 2007 Wow, a true renaissance man! Thanks!- that is his name from this point forward! beats calling him Coke Bottles..... and Wandering Eye Man..... much nicer and more positive. BTW I did not give him those names..... I call him the closeted art teacher. or Your Boyfriend.......... mr. garrison Only to the H of course. Link to post Share on other sites
Pink_Tulip Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 You obviously don't watch 'My name is Earl,' so I will pass on advice that worked well on that show. Have your H not shower for a couple days, then run hard to make sure he sweats profusely, preferably in a hot environment. Then rub raw, stinky fish all over himself, to accentuate the smell, then eat a few raw onions. Next, go meet business partner. Burp and fart a few times, be generally obnoxious, then make a pass at business partner, making sure business parter gets a good load of onion breath, and stinky, fishy body odor. Business partner will be so repulsed, the crush will be eliminated. Problem solved! Other than that, I think you can only tell your H to make an effort to be professional, but not personable, and hope the crush dissipates quickly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Moose Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 Other than that, I think you can only tell your H to make an effort to be professional, but not personable, and hope the crush dissipates quickly.LOL!! Nah.....that's not the ONLY thing a4a will do about this..... Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 I'm not so sure its so much about wheather he is gay or not and after your husband, because I would think your husband would know how to conduct himself or handle himself if approached by a gay man.... But this might be more about this business partner causing trouble for you all with the way he acts and remarks he makes. I say give it some time, but after some time has passed, good business partner or not if he is still mkaing comments or "after" your husband, your husband might need to find another business partner. Especially if it means not reeking havoc on your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
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