happygilmore Posted February 9, 2007 Share Posted February 9, 2007 im 25, she's 23.. been together 4.4 years, split 4 wks ago. I love her bad and miss her i live in a big house on my own. Sumtime my dad visits as he owns it, but most time hes at his other house (i feel lonely). I work 35 miles away, get up 5am in the morning 4 london. her reasons for split 'needs space' unsure how she feels. She's such a nice girl and i did mistakes like = go newcastle newyear wit friends,let her cook alot, moaned over nothing, do drugs (she doesnt trust me wit drugs) , other girls look at me, and i have money + 03 range rover kahn which gets looks (which she loves when shes in it)... The split she says bcoz mainly Her insecurities wit me and trust on drugs!! She says= she out wit friends wondering wat im upto, putting on a brave face, coz she thinking of me all the time and wit other girls (pisses me off). I realised this abit, from weird txts all time like (i love u sooo much?) and also getting when im in bed asleep (she cant sleep wit being paranoid).. I feel bad coz im just out wit friends having fun, and she worrying bout me.. She told me when we split that she was sick and lost weight... she acts cold to me now... like shes havin a gd time..and busy..not righting us off... I told her truth bout being on drugs 1 time and said il take her 2 paris ... She went mad!! im fine... little 2 late.. no future anymore..made right choice.. But if she thinks of me all the time when shes out why would she split if shes that loved up?? Wat shall i do Move on or Try a different tactic 2 win her back? Cheers... Link to post Share on other sites
notmakingsense Posted February 11, 2007 Share Posted February 11, 2007 4 weeks is not a lot of time. I don't think there is a lot more you can really do at this point. I think contacting her from time to time with nice notes would be Ok for a while longer -- just don't over do it and make sure she gets her space to think things through -- do not make any references to the relationship or doing things with her -- just be nice/funny -- you don't want to add any pressure to the situation. It is too soon for her to be over you yet, but she's probably getting advice to do the best she can to move on herself. Since she doesn't trust you with other women, I would not date so much -- just have a good time with your friends so she doesn't perceive you as sitting at home waiting for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author happygilmore Posted February 11, 2007 Author Share Posted February 11, 2007 Thanks for the advice notmakingsense, a few more would be nice . Also i saw her out drinking 4 days ago and i spoke to her, her friends gave me evils (as she told them everything bout me ). She says she thinks there no passion in the relationship, but never ever said she doesnt love me anymore... which was the reason for break.. ive been on NC for 4 days now and i wish i started earlier as i sent her lots of loving texts..she doesnt pick up the phone.. I was her First Love! Link to post Share on other sites
JrobBrokenheart Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 give up the drugs. she wont take u back unless she sees u have changed Link to post Share on other sites
Author happygilmore Posted February 13, 2007 Author Share Posted February 13, 2007 Yes u r right.. I gave up the steroids straight after we split, but the damage was done.. Steroids made me lose control (turn into jerk on edge) and i only realised when it was to late, my head got bigger as my body got bigger.. Which i think made her insercure, coz i was buzing in confidence in myself..i loved myself more then her i think she felt.. I feel such a loser, never do steroids again, never ever wanted to hurt sum1 (just not me, also i love her soo much, grrrrrrr) Il do a new post so no1 else does steroids and ruin there relationship.. Link to post Share on other sites
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