whos that girl Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I dont know if I am posting this in the right place. Ive tried really hard to handle this certain situation and Ive been through a lot and I thought I could handle this - obviously not... I met my husband a couple of years ago. He had 1 daughter and I have a boy and a girl - both from previous marriages- Visiting at HIS parents house one day - I brought my babies with me and his parents made it quite clear that my children were not allowed in their house. That their house was for HIS daughter only ... We moved shortly after that closer to MY family 5 states away! Since the beginning HIS parents want nothing to do with my kids or me and now that we have OUR OWN BABY on the way THEY want nothing to do with her either. His parents do everything they can to make sure he gets to see his daughter. And of course he goes for it - he should - thats his daughter. They fly him back for his weekend visits with his daughter. THEY DO EVERYTHING FOR HIS DAUGHTER... I cant handle the fact that his parents want nothing to do with even OUR own baby. They make me feel like I was never good enough. And I dont want any of my children to feel like they werent good enough. I didnt have a family growing up. I want my kids to have a great family with grandparents. What do I do . I Love him. And all ive ever wanted was a family. I cant make him choose nor should I have to .. I dont want to but I dont know what to do. Please help.. If you have any other questions please to further help your answer Please ask.. I need all the help I can get right now.Thanks For Listening!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 No matter what they may think of you, these are THEIR GRANDCHILDREN!! I love kids...and if I thought I couldn't stand my son's wife/gf...I wouldn't be able to deny his kids. Honey, this says a hell of alot more about them than you. I don't know what to tell you. Its a lousy situation for you and the kids to say the least. Link to post Share on other sites
Salicious Crumb Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Oh..I just caught the part about your two not being their biological grandchildren. Even so...thats a pretty pathetic attitude they have towards children. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Hi, Unless they invited you, you shouldn't have gone to their house with your two children. Now they dislike you. After your baby is born most likely he is going to visit them, so he could bring the baby over and they'll bond with him. Hopefully. Just stay out of the picture until they welcome you back. Good luck, Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I think the above advice is a load of manure, they are clearly insensitive creeps, probably best to not have anything to do with them at all... Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmasMuse Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I replied in the marriage forum where you posted this also. Link to post Share on other sites
Author whos that girl Posted February 10, 2007 Author Share Posted February 10, 2007 I really dont know how to use this site. So Im not familiar with reply and quote and reply with quote can someone help? What do you think about not talking to him for a few days? I cant handle being hurt by his family anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
CardPlay3r Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 I think you need to separate him and his family and so should he. If you want to be with him and he wants the same that's fine but don't give his family any leverage on your life. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Wait, your husband's daughter lives with his parents and your husband goes to visit her? Link to post Share on other sites
che_jesse Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 Can you give more insight about why they dislike you? My inlaws cant stand the sight of me for religious reasons but they appear to have acceped our daughter. I really could give a crap less if me and his mom are best friends. So: Why do they dislike you? There has to be a reason if it is a ****ty one. Why does your husbands daughter live with them instead of with her father, siblings, and stepmon? Link to post Share on other sites
Lynnekel Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 My opinion...if you make their son's heart happy then they should be happy for him and love you all....the baby that is on the way is a part of them...Your husband should stand by his wife....there is too much division on your in-laws part...have you ever talked to them? Link to post Share on other sites
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