had enough

[Bogun]

Havent been here for awhile.....did some travelling and took a break from LS. Anyway, figured I could make use of some of the wisdom floating round this little site.

 

Met a girl last year and seemingly hit if off with her. I didnt ask her out as I didnt want to get involved with someone at that point because of some pretty stressful things that were going on in my life then. Then I took a holiday overseas, and kept in touch with this girl while I was away through email. She seemed keen to meet up when I got back, so we did, but since then.....nothing has happened.

 

I admit I've probably been as confusing to her as she has to me, but I've been struggling to work out whether we're just friends or there is something going on here. She sends me meaningless emails at work, and texts me crap about being bored at work. I've had lunch with her a few times, but I dont feel like asking her wtf is going on, during a lunch break. I've tried to get her to meet up after work, but she is either busy or she agrees then changes her mind!

 

I've had enough of all this so I've decided to cut off contact with her. Maybe I'll be missing out on an opportunity here, but I've had enough of this not knowing and wondering whether shes interested or not. I thought maybe we could be good mates, but I dont think that it would work.

 

Unless someone can talk me out of this, whats the best way to get out of this. Would it be rude to just ignore all her emails and texts from now on? Or would the decent thing to do be to let her know why I cant stay friends with her?

 

Thanks in advance people

[Island Girl]

She keeps changing her mind after she agrees to do something with you or says no -- I am thinking this has happened more than twice, right?

 

It sounds like all she is doing is "chatting" which means filling time and it sounds like she only sees you as a friend.

 

You should discuss it if you have really been friends up to this point.

 

If the "friendship" is one-sided and you have been showing obvious intentions otherwise then she should not have been putting you off and changing her mind (she should have been up front and honest with you) so in that case I think you don't owe her an explanation in regards to terminating reciprocal contact.