Ladywithafan Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 How rude is this? I get up at 5:30 to go exercise (starting the NY resolution a bit late, yet still starting)... I DO NOT take my cell phone with me as I know I will have headphones on for at least 20 min. and will not be answering my phone. BF gets pissed because I come in about 10 min late...6:55 & he has to be to work at 7...we live 5 miles from his work and I always drop him off...however... he's not always on time & ususally uses me as an excuse when he's 10 late...his FRIEND is sitting on the sofa when I come back from gym so he HAS A RIDE...and could have got the things out of my suv, by calling me & letting me know to stop by on the way to work but NO>>>>> He has to throw a fit about why I should have my phone with me so he can call....it's raining here in FL and I KNEW he would not need to be out on the grounds with it pouring...and... MAYBE I wanted to work out without having a phone up my ass...???? (we've been together 8 years...) Thoughts anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 Does he usually pitch a fit about other things too? Or just about him being late? Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 I would start by having him get a car. Why is it you have to transport him to work. I know from experience that it is very easy and frustrating when a morning workout routine gets interrupted... I can understand why he would be irritated that you were late returning, but there is no reason you need to have a leash. Just try to be on time from now on if you have agreed to drive him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladywithafan Posted February 12, 2007 Author Share Posted February 12, 2007 Does he usually pitch a fit about other things too? Or just about him being late? Yes, depending on what it is, he likes to start an argument about how I'm doing something not quite right....usually why I don't answer the cell phone and/or have it turned off when he's trying to get me.... This is not a do or die situation...it's worse than the toothpaste cap off the tube scenario.... It is my opinion that just because a cell phone rings, doesn't mean you're joined at the hip & need to answer all the time...that's why there's voice mail. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladywithafan Posted February 12, 2007 Author Share Posted February 12, 2007 I would start by having him get a car. Why is it you have to transport him to work. I know from experience that it is very easy and frustrating when a morning workout routine gets interrupted... I can understand why he would be irritated that you were late returning, but there is no reason you need to have a leash. Just try to be on time from now on if you have agreed to drive him. He sold his car last year and I have no idea why he doesn't have a car except he doesn't save his $$$...had a drug problem in the past...and he's done a good turn around...but relies on me to get him to work... I would have NORMALLY been back earlier, but with the rain, I know they are not outside at 7 am on a day like today, they are eating donuts...so I figured that there should not be a problem....when it's rained previously, he calls in, not a big issue & says he's leaving with me......so I figure, why should today be any different than any other rainy day, his boss will say, take your time... BUT says to me...THAT's NOT THE POINT....UGH!!!!!!! Pissed off me wants to say a myrad of things that are hurtfull but instead cries...I can't ever make you happy...and throws sneakers!!! Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 Yes, depending on what it is, he likes to start an argument about how I'm doing something not quite right....usually why I don't answer the cell phone and/or have it turned off when he's trying to get me.... This doesn't sound healthy at all. He will only continue this behavior if you allow. it. I didn't say you were the cause, I'm just saying as long as you tolerate it and he is not willing to change or see his behavior, he will continue. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladywithafan Posted February 12, 2007 Author Share Posted February 12, 2007 Yes, depending on what it is, he likes to start an argument about how I'm doing something not quite right....usually why I don't answer the cell phone and/or have it turned off when he's trying to get me.... This doesn't sound healthy at all. He will only continue this behavior if you allow. it. I didn't say you were the cause, I'm just saying as long as you tolerate it and he is not willing to change or see his behavior, he will continue. He can be arrogant...obviously...I'm no angel, but I just thought this was ridiculous & had to get it off my chest.... I was so happy to go to the gym (starting back after a year of not going)...that my dopamines were in high gear...lol...anyhow.....it pissed me off that he was pissing me off...... I don't know...it's hard to help when you haven't heard both sides.......however, based on past experience...I was of the opinion that he would be going in to work late based on weather & this was just an opportunity to be mean...for him... Link to post Share on other sites
Karma24 Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 No, I don't think your boyfriend was being rude at all. My husband has cut it close like that as I'm trying to get out the door for work and it drives me crazy. We have two cars but I can't leave until he gets home because of the kids. It's all a matter of being considerate. Your boyfriend may have overreacted but I think he was justified in being peeved. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 No, I don't think your boyfriend was being rude at all. Your boyfriend may have overreacted but I think he was justified in being peeved. Ok so what about every time he gets peeved, is that right too? She stated he liked to start arguments. If he truly wanted to get to work without depending on others, then he would save enough money to get him a car. Yet he relies on others to go out of their way to get him to where he needs to be.OK so she was a few minutes late, big deal. He should consider himself lucky he has someone to take him back and forth to where he needs to be instead of whining. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladywithafan Posted February 13, 2007 Author Share Posted February 13, 2007 No, I don't think your boyfriend was being rude at all. My husband has cut it close like that as I'm trying to get out the door for work and it drives me crazy. We have two cars but I can't leave until he gets home because of the kids. It's all a matter of being considerate. Your boyfriend may have overreacted but I think he was justified in being peeved. True...I think sometimes we do things not realizing how crazy we make our partners....my girlfriend told me, "you have a way of doing "x" that you're not even aware that you're doing it...my mom even told me this..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladywithafan Posted February 15, 2007 Author Share Posted February 15, 2007 We are working on our differences in relation to answering our cell phones... Link to post Share on other sites
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