lebowski24 Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 I don't know if this is the right category for this post or not. In fact, I don't think it really belongs in any category, but here goes. My ex broke it off with me about 9 or 10 months ago. I took it pretty hard, especially during the first few months. Those months pretty much consisted of me trying to call her every week or two trying to see what she was up to, if she'd ever want to get back together, etc. I think I even made myself appear a little crazy, but I eventually realized that the only way to "fix" that was to break off contact completely to allow us both to heal. So I stopped contacting her and did so successfully for the next 5 or 6 months. Then out of the blue one night, I got a text message asking if I still wanted to be friends. However, during the no contact period, I got used to not having her in my life and had myself convinced that for us to not talk again was for the best, so as not to bring back any feelings... so I ignored the text for 3 or 4 weeks. Of course, curiousity eventually got the best of me, and I ended up emailing her to ask why she emailed me out of the blue. She got all defensive saying she thought we could be friends but that it must have been a dumb idea since I never got back to her. Long story short, had a few "rougher" emails, but then a couple text messages saying we should catch up, and then finally last week talked on the phone for the first time in months. (Notice this is where I start getting sucked in a bit) I at first had no intentions of talking with her again, let alone trying to get back together, but during the last week I've been having all of these thoughts that I hadn't had for a long time. I can't help but wonder, did she break the no contact because she is trying to get back in my life and see if there is a chance for us but wants to do that slowly, or was she just wanting to talk, catch up, and then go back to no contact? And do I keep up the contact and just see what happens, or do I completely cut it off just so I can get her out of my mind again? You girls are so confusing Link to post Share on other sites
shockandawed Posted February 12, 2007 Share Posted February 12, 2007 Lebowski, First of all, congrats on going as long as you did. It appears you have done a good job of getting over her and wrestled back some of the control you may have lost early on. I know all too well how those first few weeks go. I personally don't see a problem with communicating with her to see where she is going. You seem to be able to handle it emotionally. Let her dictate the course of the conversation. If she just wants to catch up and be gone, then fine, at least you will know. Just don't be too eager to reconcile. Make her come to that conclusion and then you have the power to decide if that is in your best interest. I think you will regret and wonder if you do not hear her out anyways. Good luck!! BTW, great name and flick. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 I agree with Shocked if you are wanting and ready to be friends. If there is to be any furture relationship it needs to start back as friends anyway. If it were me after the amount of time that has gone by I would see what's up. Link to post Share on other sites
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