It's getting WORSE for him

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Check out my old post:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t111981/

 

Ok so my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me 3 weeks ago because his feelings had changed, I had been acting needy and I was always unhappy, and he wants to be a "single man on a mountain" (Even though he said he still loved me when breaking up). He called on Monday. He told me when he broke up that he doesn't want me out of his life forever and would like to stay "friends." So I'm guessing this was a friendly phone call to check up because he had seen that I wasn't doing too well the first week of the breakup. Prior to the call, it had been almost 2 weeks of No Contact (except for a "Happy Birthday!" text message I had sent 2 mights earlier).

 

So we had kind of an awkward conversation on the phone where I lied through my teeth and said I was doing just fine and we laughed and joked a bit. Then after about 5 minutes I said I was hungry so I was going to get off the phone and go eat and he asked "So is this cool?" meaning "is talking as friends cool?" because "He is ok with it" and he was wondering if I was ok with it.

 

I am not ok with it, but for now I just wanted to play along and I said "Yeah its fine with me. Listen, I realize what happened is for the best, but I still care about you and don't want you out of my life forever" and then I asked him "Has it even been hard for you?" because the first week of the break up, he had said he was doing fine and felt he had made the right decision. So his reply to this was a sad "Yeah. Its getting worse for me over time. I guess I am dealing with it more slowly than you did, but you seem to be doing fine now" to which I replied "Its because I have no choice but to be fine. Listen, who knows what the future holds for us but for now I think we both know this is the right decision." I think he was silent after that and then I said I had enjoyed the chat and I was sure we'd be talking soon and said bye.

 

It broke my heart to lie to him like that, and I know its dangerous that I am playing games, but . . .I had already done the whole begging and pleading and "I love you I miss you" bit and it hadnt worked.

 

Soooooo . . . I am going to continue No Contact unless he calls again. It is sooooooo hard because I want to call every second of every day. I think I will play this game for a few more weeks and see where it leads, before I get tired of it and cut him out of my life completely.

 

So does it look like I have a good chance of getting him back? I know he loves me still, and he showed he is definitely missing me. And our relationship had been really great when it was going good. I think it had just kinda fizzled out in the end . . .