Is he not ready for commitment?

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I've been seeing this guy for 7 months, and things started wonderfully between us. We live about 45 minutes apart. I have a young son, so when we would get together for a weekend, it would usually have to be at my place. We were actually friends 2 years first, which is a good thing. Not terribly close friends, but we'd been out in group settings together several times. He was divorced 5 years ago and has not been in any kind of serious relationship during that 5 years because he just didn't want one.

 

His marriage ended because his wife cheated on him, so he was soured on relationships for quite awhile. Like I said, in the beginning things were great. He would e-mail that he wanted to be with me any time he could get, and if I wanted to see him just ask - he would be there. He would send the most romantic e-mails and say the sweetest things on the phone, walk hand-in-hand with me on the lake, and he told me we were perfect for each other. I feel the same way.

 

It's now 7 months later. Whereas he used to often spend a weekday at my place and would ALWAYS come to my house Friday night and stay until Monday morning, he now never comes during the week or Friday night, and lately he's been taking to not coming on Saturday sometimes, citing reasons like "a night out to shoot pool with co-workers" or "I just want to wake up at my place." This doesn't happen often, but we get no time together at all except for our weekends, so now that it's happening it makes me feel as though he's cooling of quickly and doesn't miss me like I miss him.

 

He claims he feels exactly the same about me as he always has, but he likes to be at his place with his stuff sometimes. However, he has Sunday and Mondays off, and I work Mondays, so he's home all day on Monday, and he's there all during the work week. When I tried to discuss this with him, he said something to the effect that "this is the kind of issue that's made me end relationships in the past." He says he wants us to be together and wants us to live together soon, but if we're to build a life together it seems to me we're not going to work if he doesn't even want our weekends. By the way, there is no planned date for this change in living arrangements as of yet.

 

Thoughts please?