SuddenlyISee Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 I met this girl [call her H] through another friend of mine around 2 years ago. We started talking online alot before we actually met up and it turned out we had LOADS in common, and just basically loved each other's personalities. However, during this time she was with someone. Anyway, as the 'friendship' progressed she'd talk to me about her relationship problems and I'd basically be there whenever she needed me. A year passed and she broke up with her partner, and we got together pretty soon after that, which turned out to be a bad idea, cos she wasn't over them and got back back together about 3 months after. Obviously I was hurt and went through a pretty bad time, but just had to get on with things.. In the Sept we were starting university together, and on our first day she kissed me in the park, and obviously I was confused because she was the one who said she wanted to be friends. We spoke, and she said she was gonna end it with her partner. Well, that didn't happen, but I guess I was kinda pressurey and regret that now. So, they finally broke up just before Christmas, and she's still single now, but has told she wants time for herself right now cos she's just come out of a 3 year relationship - which I said is fine, aslong as she does stuff for herself during this time. And she said the other night that it's not that she doesn't want me, it's just I guess the situation isn't ideal right now. And we're always talking about future plans together.. However, the thing that got me earlier was that we were talking online and she suddenly says ''i'm off out now'' and I ask where and she was like ''wtf, just out..'' like it was a crime that I asked - when we always ask each other who we're going out with or where we are going, with nothing meant by it. And she hardly ever goes out so I was kinda shocked that she said that just randomly. So.. was she just saying that so she got a reaction? Should I make myself less available online and when she wants to go out? Just want a little advice.. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 You answered your own question. If she's just a friends..why aren't you out there looking for someone. Your not tied to her in any way. Your available to others and your entitled to that. Stop waiting and go out there and see what the world has to offer! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SuddenlyISee Posted February 15, 2007 Author Share Posted February 15, 2007 You answered your own question. If she's just a friends..why aren't you out there looking for someone. Your not tied to her in any way. Your available to others and your entitled to that. Stop waiting and go out there and see what the world has to offer! The trouble is, I know all this myself, but it's just hard to do cos I have such a close relationship with her.. Bah. Link to post Share on other sites
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted February 15, 2007 Share Posted February 15, 2007 Well of course its hard. Theres no easy way to do it than to just do it! I bet if a girl came up to yu, the other girl would be in your mind and wouldn't pursue anything. Do you think H is turning guys down that hit on her, I doubt it, cause she's fair game. You first need to distance yourself. Don't call her as much, talk to her online as much. If you want to be with his, this will cause her to call you and ask why your not talking to her as much and she'll probably want you...that's how it works, when they see that their losing your oggling and calls and emailes they start to worry that you don't like them anymore, not b/c they like you, but women like as many men as possible to fawn over them jsut so they still feel sexy, even if they think your disgusting (not that you are, just making a point) Am I making sense? lol. GO AN AND GET SOME OTHER PUNANI! Link to post Share on other sites
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