Woggle Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 This probably sounds crazy to the rest of you but I was thinking about how I broke it off with my wife a week before the wedding and it makes me feel guilty.We ended up getting married anyway but I am sure it somewhat soured things for her. I was a real jerk then and she didn't deserve that. I know how women tend to remember things way in the past so would it would be a good idea to bring it up and apologize or would it be wise to just forget about it? Link to post Share on other sites
drcottuk Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Hi there Well i did the very same thing as you many years ago. I was engaged to this girl but then fell for what i saw as a sex goddess at work. So was so physically attractive i was blind to anyone else. I ended up calling off my wedding a week before the event even though my sister and her hubby were coming over from US for the wedding. It ended up that me and the sex god ended it anyway and i becoame best freinds with the girl i dumped in the end although we never got back together. If you are truly sorry and can show it in ways other than just words then yes you should apologise. It will do her good as well as you and you can bet your boots she hasnt forgot it. She has just put it in the back hof her mind vowing to herself never to bring the subject up. But they never forget pal. Would you. If you can show her that you are truly sorry then you can both really forget it all and get on with your love/ Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 I know how women tend to remember things way in the past so would it would be a good idea to bring it up and apologize or would it be wise to just forget about it? Being able to swallow your pride and say "I'm Sorry" to your partner can go further than a thousand "I love yous." It's important that your relationship get to a place where you both feel safe enough with each that you are allowed to let down your defenses and show a little vulnerability from time to time. If you genuinely regret doing something you're worried may have hurt her, than by all means express that to her in a sincere way. NOT because you're worried she's secretly keeping score. NOT because you're worried she might hold it against you later if you don't. NOT because the incident is being held over your head and you feel forced to. And NOT even because you're seeking forgiveness in hopes the whole incident will go away and be forgotten. But show her that side of you just because you genuinely "feel" it. Krap, Woggle. Coming from you, she'll probably faint! Link to post Share on other sites
Mz. Pixie Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 I would apologize and ask for forgiveness- that will go a long way towards making her forget it. Has she brought it up before since you guys have been married? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 Oh Woggle, definitely apologize to her. That will make her feel so great inside. I'm glad you decided to go through with it. Once she accepts your apology, let it go and don't be hard on yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 next time you're together and the timing feels right (i.e., you're comfortable with the idea of doing so and she's receptive), bring up the subject and offer an apology. Something like, "If I had realized just even a little bit how much happiness that being married to you has given me, I would have done things differently. I'm sorry for hurting you that way." she will understand how much your marriage means to her and your regret that you did something like that out of ignorance of what you've found good in life. Link to post Share on other sites
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