loveratud Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Now for the tricky part, how to process this lesson into your psyche. You could keep that hole for your ex open, not ever allowing anyone else to fill it. You could date, subconsciously unsuitable people who will eventually hurt you again....validating that you are to be forever alone. A sort of self hate cycle. Or, you could use it as a self guide. Once finding someone who you click with in a healthy way, a reminder, to hold on, work on and be there fully. Now if you choose this option, of course Murphy's Law may reintroduce said painful ex into the picture wanting you back. Then you will be faced with a possibly painful choice. Hopefully, by then you can always look at this ex as a learning experience to be applied to the person you decide to commit to. Thank her for the interest/closure whatever, and move on with the best intentions and follow thru to the new girl. Hopfully by then you can make the most productive choice for your future, even if a little painful. The best to you. Or you could find people that are unsuitable (or suitable, it doesn't really matter) and take out your pain and frustrations on them. Hurt others to make up for your hurt. I'm not saying you should do that, or that it's healthy or anything, but it's something that some people do. Link to post Share on other sites
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