M 22 tired of spending money at chiropractor to sublimate need for contact. No mimes.

[Pubert]

We interrupt this program to annoy you and make things generally irritating...

 

Har har. New to the forum, old (and bad) hand at the dating game. I hope you lovely people can help me out on that one. More on that later...

I'm a Navy special forces operator (not the typical harsh military man though).

22 years old hale and hearty. I take online personality quizzes far too seriously. I'm probably one of the most easy going and down to earth people around. A movie buff, I have a big collection of many genres (lots of classic and foreign flicks though.) I love to laugh, love to read, love to have serious in depth conversations. I consider myself pretty highly educated but mostly on my own time and terms. I've got a sort of dark biting sense of humour but timing for that is key. I like to make music more than dance to it but I can dance if the need arises.

 

However! I'm having a lot of trouble finding any sort of relationship with a woman. I usually get stuck in the friends zone (it's my ability to give advice and help people figure things out I think). Physically I'd say I'm above average. Special Forces service makes one a very physically fit individual and I've got a "pretty" face or so I've been told. No idea why I'm rejected so much so I came here for some fresh perspectives. Answers I've got before have been "maybe it's your race" I'm Middle Eastern and I really hope that's not the case, or "you seem unapproachable". Usually it's a variation on one of those 2. In any case tips and hints on how to seem approachable and how to approach? I usually just talk to a girl like I'd talk to any other person. That doesn't seem to be working. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[norajane]

You have to flirt with girls, not talk to them like they were just anyone else. Smile, make eye contact, compliment them, make them feel like they are special.

 

FLIRT with them, so they notice you!

[Chamari]

Judging by what you say about yourself, you sound like a pretty cool guy--normally a good thing if you're looking for a relationship. However, I've noticed just within my own circle of friends when everyone's talking about which guys they like and all, there are always a few that they classify as unatainable. Maybe the girls you meet put you in the category too--fun to look at, fun to be around, wouldn't even think about dating because you're obviously way to amazing to ever date any of them. Good news is, if that's true then there is definitely hope for you. I would say that the easiest way to escape the unatainable trap is to make it clear that you're available--try flirting, ask a couple of girls out for fun even if you don't think it'll go anywhere. Show that you're available for flirting and interested in dating and if you're anything like what you describe you should have any number of girls after you.