whistles Posted February 17, 2007 Share Posted February 17, 2007 I've been single for almost two years...Probably because I am exceptionally picky! A month ago a work contact introduced me to a man, and I was instantly smitten, something that has never occured before. OK so there was the flirtatious stuff which certainly is appriciated, usually I would just take this as a fun night out and leave it there, but we got talking about things and stuff and other such nonsense and for some reason I was able to tell this person all about me... things I don't usually divulge to my friends until considerable time has elapsed and I trust them completely. He tells me his experiences. I nod and understand and it makes complete sense. Jumping forward a bit, we date some, I get closer to him, tell more about me, learn more about him. ( I think I forgot to mention that on first meeting he told me he had split with a lass who lived 200 miles away because the distance was too much of an issue) 'cept the other day I learn they havn't actually split just "taken a break" (pfft) while they resolve the distance issue. Allow me to say, I would never set out to steal a taken man. Hence I am annoyed with myself for finding myself in this situation. Thing is.... it seems they were on the verge of breakdown when I foolishly and ignorantly stepped in. The situation is that they live miles apart usually only meet in person once a month, and neither party is inclined to make the move so they can be together permenantly. On finding out that there was still a g/f in the equation I admitted to man I did like him a helluva lot, but was not prepared to play either mistress or relationship wrecker and politely excused myself. Which was the good and decent thing to do. I think. Only problem is I *do* want to be with him. I would dance a dance of joyousness should he tap on my door right now and say he wanted to be with me . Please, someone talk some sense in to me ! W x Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 You did the right thing. If he wants to be with you, he will brake up with his girlfriend. It's like that saying you got to let something go and if it comes back to you it's yours. Otherwise, all that would have happend if you did decide to still see him despite the girlfriend, would be that he would get you AND the girlfriend. And that isn't fair to you, the girlfriend or even fair of him. You did the right thing. Link to post Share on other sites
LN99 Posted February 18, 2007 Share Posted February 18, 2007 Even though you have feelings for him, you are doing the right thing by stepping back and away from this situation. Trust me, you are doing the right thing. Imagine how his gf would feel if she found out about the two of you? Imagine how you would feel if he did this to you and was involved with yet another female while supposidly being with "you" and only you. Link to post Share on other sites
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