riobikini Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 LOL, Quinch! And I'm *in* the kitchen! (Smile) -Rio Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I'm a giver. I'm a giver in friendships but I never give too much. I'm a giver in relationships but I always give too much. I'm working on learning to be more selfish but I'm not doing a very good job. It's a big problem for me, especially dating in a city where only bytchy self absorbed women are desired. Link to post Share on other sites
dropdeadlegs Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I'm definitely not a taker, so I guess that makes me a giver. I am truly finding that in giving, I get back quite a bit, and like Curmudgeon said, I take graciously. I my youth I was far too much of a giver, taking almost nothing in return. I am learning balance, and balance is ideal. Link to post Share on other sites
the_alchemyst Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I am a giver. I give everything I possibly can until I end up with absolutely nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I am a giver. I give everything I possibly can until I end up with absolutely nothing. Haha!! Me too! Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Hmmm... I think the times I step off balance in the give and take (to become a giver) are times when I'm trying too hard to salvage something unsalvageable. otherwise, when things are good with SO, the balance just works itself out. Link to post Share on other sites
Breeze Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 OMG I though yall was talking about something else until I read everyone's response. Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 OMG I though yall was talking about something else until I read everyone's response. LOL! Well, my response still applies. I'm all about give and take! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I'm definately more of a giver. I feel odd taking. Link to post Share on other sites
ilmw Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Or are you well balanced enough to be both? My recent break-up has made me look back at my past relationships, and reflect on what happened in my last one. Today I realized that in this last one I was the Giver . And when I thought about it, I realized that by being in that role, I was actually keeping a certain amount of intimacy at bay . It was a dismal sort of Eureka moment. Others, what have you been, what did you realize about it? Learn from it? Yeah I've had one of those Eureka moments too.. I've learned over the past 9-10 months is that.. you have to have balance in everything... work, friends, kids, and relationships. You maintain the balance... it is easier to juggle life... If one part of your life is being paid more attention too... you can drop the ball... Been there... done that.. Balance is the key... Give and take... freely... but with balance.. measured equally. ilmw Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 Something has happened to me in this relationship... basically since the beginning of this month. I have traditionally been a giver. For reasons that I gather to be from some sort of insecurity in myself. Anyway, about the beginning of this month, as V-Day approached, something in my mind just clicked (with the help from the LSers who helped me out...thanks). I just suddenly felt comfortable with the concept of giving less and taking more I guess. I'm still learning the balance as it hasn't been long, but I feel a lot less pressure when I am not in the giving mode. I highly recommend backing off to anyone who is a giver. It's very relaxing. Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts