.... I am still in love with her.

[stillinlove2007]

We met in March 2002, We met as roomates (coincidently we responded to the same ad).

We instantly became friends.

May 2002, she kissed me (slowly sucks my earlobes). She had a boyfriend so I just thought it was nothing

In September 2002, we found our own apt 2gether. in Oct 2002, I fell in love with her.

 

In March 2003 I told her how I felt and she said that there was nothing wrong with that.

 

Nothing phys. happened after first kiss she gave me in May 2002.

In September of 2004, I told her I need space coz I am always going to be in love with her. She said she loved me too. We made love. Had sex... ONCE.

 

She freaked out and in a week told me she found the perfect guy.

I was hurt and broke contact with her.

 

In March 2006, I called her up. Thought I was over her. I wasn't.

She came out to me... she is a lesbian now. She started dating girls first time in April 2006. They were on and off and broke up in December 2006 because her (now)ex did not want to move in with her.

 

Still... She and her ex-girlfriend are like close friends now. I do not know if they have the same closeness we had. If she is over me?

 

She sent me a card last month sayn we have a unique dynamic n she misses me and that she's in my corner to cheer me on for what ever i want in life. So I called her up, and she asked if I wanted to go dancing (im a good dancer)... so I thought, hey why not? can't go wrong here. she told me i was looking hot... but when we talked, was like friends do. And to make it worse ... an hour later her exgirlfriend sends her a text message and shows up.

 

i left telling her i had to wake up early the next day. i don't know what the deal is. i am still in love with her. don't know if i should stay friends cause i clearly have past emotional stuff that comes up! and don't know if i should go ... and lose the chance if she does want me.

 

I'm confused! I feel lost.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

 

You cut contact -cease contact As Soon As Possible.

 

You should move on, and stop coming back to her. It is evident you are getting hurt each time you keep trying to see a way around this situation.

 

The relationship -or whatever you two had -is over. The friendship is over as well.

 

Do yourself a favor, and start to date other women. Because, in due time, you'll be able to say that you have finally won over your troubles, struggles and 'in-love' feelings.

 

Good Luck,

Sand&Water

[brokenhart2007]

I'm sorry to hear your hurting...cutting her out of your life completely is the best thing you can do for yourself. She already left you once for someone who she thought was apparently "better", then started to date women. Even if you could have her, there's a chance that these things will yet again get in the way. And you shouldn't be friends with her if your feelings make it too hard.

 

You should find someone who is straight and faithful to you! Believe it or not, you will get over it eventually...good luck