Mistaken Identity Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 This should be a long story, but I'll make it short. Ex-husband diagnosed with schizophrenia. He had only one psychotic episode during which he was diagnosed, and none since he began medication nine years ago. During our eight years of marriage, he left me more times than I can remember. He always ended up at a family member's house. He is terrified of confrontation. He wouldn't hold a job, drank all the time, sat around rocking back and forth. I couldn't take it any more. But, I never asked him to leave. He left the last time in October. He just quit his job and went to his sister's . I should add that he never ever warns me he's going, and he doesn't take any of his belongings. He finally contacted me a few days ago. We have a six year-old daughter that he says he misses. He also claims that since he stopped taking his medication, he is back to his old self. He realizes his f-ups. I don't know what to believe. But the truth is, I'm still attracted to him and wish we could be a family again. PS: I divorced him during one of his absences. Am I a fool? Link to post Share on other sites
MoonGirl Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 You'd only be a fool if you took this man back. Link to post Share on other sites
Canuck2006 Posted February 20, 2007 Share Posted February 20, 2007 I'm certainly not schizophrenic but I did just deal with major depression. I think he needs to be medicated and maybe if the other stuff wasn't working, he needs to get some that does. People can be okay and they can recover but I would be afraid to take back someone who didn't get help all the time for their sickness. Maybe you can support him to get back on track with that. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 That's a question we can't answer. Only you can. However if you decide to try to rekindle things I would highly suggest that he gets into therapy and continues it. You need to focus on your own well-being along with your daughters'. He needs to be taking control of his own life as well and working on the things he can to improve his life as well. Link to post Share on other sites
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