OMIGOD, blown off to the max

[Nezero]

Well I guess its not really to the max but I realized it was pretty harsh.

So today was the first day of orientation for university for me. So anyway they had these host groups which involved an older student whose doing the same course taking around new students doing the same course.

 

Now there was one chick in our group who was quite attractive and since the course is Engineering/Science must be pretty smart as well.

 

So anyway talked with her a bit and she seem cool and stuff. So after four of us (me, two guys and her) sat down in a lecture theater for the dean's welcome. After it finished I was like 'Hey what's your guy's email etc?' (to not seem like I was too eager but still hers). The two guys write it down and she's like oh do you want my personal one or uni one. I'm like personal one and she says 'Oh I can't remember it' and gave me her uni one.

 

I didn't really think much of it until I mentioned it to a girl friend who say 'you totally got blown off'.

I guess the easiest way to find out its to send her an email to her uni one asking her for her other one or just let it go.

The worst she can do really is don't really reply or say something about it.

[Kamille]

Lol. Life is full of mitigating circumstances and you have to allow for the possibility that maybe just maybe she forgot her personal email. I mean, why would she have offered it in the first place?

 

Now - DON'T WRITE AND ASK FOR IT! What would that prove? Nothing except that you are way too persistant.

 

I have three emails account and they are all very valid ways of reaching me. In fact, the best account to use to reach me is my work account. It's the one I check everyday.

 

Don't feel so blown off. But also, new in College? Keep your options open.

[Breeze]

Lol. Life is full of mitigating circumstances and you have to allow for the possibility that maybe just maybe she forgot her personal email. I mean, why would she have offered it in the first place?

 

Now - DON'T WRITE AND ASK FOR IT! What would that prove? Nothing except that you are way too persistant.

 

I have three emails account and they are all very valid ways of reaching me. In fact, the best account to use to reach me is my work account. It's the one I check everyday.

 

Don't feel so blown off. But also, new in College? Keep your options open.

 

 

I agree with Kamille I dont think she meant anything by it she just really forgot it. Just use the one she gave you and go from there dont PLEASE dont go and ask her for her other email at least she gave you one.

[Nezero]

Part 2. This is really detailed but the gist of it is she wanted me to come along. Anyway I guess I was stupid enough to ask for her number at the end of it. But I sorta taking the stance of if it happens it happens for this.

Well lets see. Wednesday I saw her and she asked me if I was going to this chem thing so we eventually ended up catching the end of it. We met up with her friend and went to buy some chem stuff. i walked with them back to the same theater cause there was going to be a biology lecture which her friend need to see but she didn't.

So I asked for the digits and she said you've got me email right?

Yes I know I shouldn't of asked her.

For that I have decided to play it cool for now and not really worry about it.

 

So anyway a second story.

Now there was a pub crawl on today so my friends and I went with a whole bunch of other people.

We ended up at the same pub as one we had been on Tuesday.

Eventually most of my friends and stuff left except for a two of them.

It was pretty boring as there was mainly guys dancing. We randomly started talking to this group of 2 girls and 1 guy. At first I thought this one girl lets say A was with the guy but I found out that they had only known each other for two days.

Now she wanted to dance so she got us to dance.

After a bit we sat down and later on we all danced again.

Now she wanted to leave cause she would have an early class the next day so I walked out with them. As they started walking I'm said 'Hey we should do this again?'

I sure the guy said he hasn't got a phone yet which made sense since he's from Texas (I'm in Australia) and only been here for a week. Now I think A said oh we'll see you here again anyway.

Knowing that unlike them I don't live in teh city I was like what Iabout if I get your number?

She said Oh I can't remember mine (Fair enough, not everyone does)

So I'm like I'll give you mine. So I typed it in and rang myself to get hers.

Anyway her expression pretty much seem like, awkward and I think I got the message.

 

I guess this second story is partially ranting cause its annoying when you get a sorta mixed message type thing. Also I don't believe I came on too strong.

 

Now eventually I won't really care about it but I don't think I should let it go yet.

Do you think I should just send of a friendly msg on like Sunday just asking her hows it going etc?

If she replies I can take that anyway I want, if she doesn't its pretty obvious.

Right?

[Kamille]

I understand how annoying this must be for you.

 

Did you say these girls are locals?

 

Now let me tell you about my city. It is a University town, a very small one, and the locals are notoriously hard to approach.

 

I'm lucky in that I was a girl from out of town when I moved here and men are much easier to approach then women.

 

I was talking to a friend who lived here for a few years and he said that in 7 years of living here, he was never able to pick up a 'local girl'. While here, I soon became a local girl so I had kind of an insider's view.

 

Local girls went out with local guys. Punto. I think the reasoning was that we knew those guys, we knew their friends, we knew what they did, we knew their 'value' if you will. When outside guys approached us, I know I often felt like I didn't know where he was coming from, since he didn't know me.

 

It was possible for outside guys to become local guys. It took longer then a few days.

 

So perhaps you feel you are not being to agressive, but over here, some girls would feel that they have all the time to get to know a guy (since it is a small town and we see everyone every where) and that there is no rush in setting up contact.

 

What I recommend you do: spend time at local hang-outs (here it's cafés). Chat up girls but don't ask for contact info.

 

Within a few weeks, a few of them will probably send you the 'into you' vibe. Then proceed to ask for a number.

 

Or date out-of-towners. That is what my friend did. By the way, he is now considered a local guy since coming back to town last year, and all the girls that wouldn't give him a glance are now all over him.

[Nezero]

Well they happen to live in the city but aren't actually from the city. I live in a metropolitan suburb and train it into the city. Now the guy was from Texas, A was from a 'country' town as in she had to move to study in Melbourne and the other was from New Zealand.

[Nezero]

Hmm msg her and no reply. Meh, what are you going to do.

[JCD]

Nothing, move on to the next girl. If this girl wants you then she'll hang with you.

[Nezero]

Heh that was my point. Anyway lets say I'm back to girl 1. I've got her number and plan on asking her out to do something.