kubic2 Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Well to make a long, long story short and get to the point, this girl and I have been "seeing each other" for about 6 months. We met at work and well we fell in love. But she had a boyfriend, which was not only wrong but very exciting. Anyways he was her first everything and they've been together for two years. But he lives three hours from us and to add he is your typical dirtbag boyfriend, and has treated her pretty bad. So after these months, it got to where she was so confused with whom she wanted to be with that she actually told him about me. So he obviously got scared and acted like he loved her again. A little later she chose him and was a bitch to me. I didn't take it to lightly and moved on, only to get a call two weeks later from her balling her eyes out about how she made a mistake. I had forgiven her because I understand her situation and they broke up. After the best week we had, her mother kicked her out and the only place she could go was to live with him. Trust me I tried everything to keep her here. In the days before she left, she was with me every second she could, and said things like she doesn't love him she loves me. She doesn't know how long she will be gone but she will be back for at least part of the summer, after that nobody knows. So in anyones opinon, if you were in her position, what would you do? would you try to get back as soon as possible, or would you let go and and remember it as a lot of good times? Link to post Share on other sites
had3nuff Posted February 21, 2007 Share Posted February 21, 2007 Regardless if her boyfriend treats her bad, the fact is, she's with him. Some people just can't tear themselves away from bad relationships. It's as if they become stuck and fall in love with their potential. You obviously are very different from the boyfriend in question and that was an exciting option to her, but in the end, she chose him over you. Hate to say this but obviously the boyfriend has some good somewhere. She may complain and fuss but actions speak louder than words. Plus... She knew she could fall back on you. You've made it perfectly clear you would take her back, so what is she losing? Instead of worrying about what she will do - Face the facts of your situation. If she comes back, are you willing to accept her back with the possiblity that she will rebound again and go back to the boyfriend? Don't you think you deserve better than that? Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author kubic2 Posted February 22, 2007 Author Share Posted February 22, 2007 Well it's not like she chose him. She chose me, but couldn't be with me. She asked me to wait for her, but given my situation I may not have a choice. I have a lot of things I need to straighten out with my life, and another girl is something I'm not worried about. If she comes back I just don't want to go through the same thing again, except I'm in a relationship. I know this is weird to say, I do love her but I dont care about being with her, I was just happy with her as a part of my life. She was the only person whom was ever there for me in my life. I dont think I will find anyone better, at least for a while, but the situation really didn't help her reputation. She's not the kind of girl to do what she said. So yeah if she is stuck on him, sooner or later they will break up, I just dont know when that happens if she will call me again, even if it is to be just friends. Link to post Share on other sites
had3nuff Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 From what I read, I really do think she will contact you again. She's unstable in her choices and stuck in a shakey situation - Those two things are red flags for disaster. You said in your first post that you met her at work. Is it safe to assume she is still working? If so, the smartest and most obvious thing she can do to better herself is get her own place and take care of her business without having to fall back on other people that aren't right for her. How long has it been since she made contact with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author kubic2 Posted February 23, 2007 Author Share Posted February 23, 2007 The last time we talked was Jan. 24th so almost a month ago. Link to post Share on other sites
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