JrobBrokenheart Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 Ok, long story, bear with me: My girlfriend of 10.5 months broke up with me on new year's day, saying that she was no longer happy, but she would always love me. I was working lots, and only seeing her an hour or two each day, without any quality time. During our time apart, she hung out mainly with their two best friends, who are sisters, and their older brother, who is 20. Because of the stress of workin many hours, i was unable to keep her happy, and i never really took her anywhere or did anything besides sitting around the house. I was so stressed i never had the energy to do so. When we broke up, I was devastated. We stayed close however, and talked like we were still together. While i was in Florida, she began dating her friend's brother( only about a week after we split). They have been dating for about a month i think, and he has asked her to marry him already. He was just engaged to another girl a few months ago, and my ex is only 16 years old. I havent heard if she has said yes, and she is not aware that i know, she is trying to keep it a secret. Dating him is ruining her reputation, though she doesnt know it. I hate the rumors i hear, that she is trashy, scummy now, dating a loser, drinking all the time, i hate it. I know her better than anyone, she is not anything like that. We dont talk anymore, he wont allow her to, even though she said she wanted to be friends, and talked of hanging out.( She also told me she misses me and my family) I love her still, so much. We spent a ton of time together, went on two vacations, and she was with me through my senior year, prom, my hs graduation, first semester of college, first time sex, you name it. We were so close and so in love. Im not desperate, but i want her back. I am confidant i can make her happy, i made her happy for almost a year. Sure, the excitement of first dating wore off, but it is replaced by something deeper. I need thoughts on this. If she said she would always love me, why would she leave? sure, times were tough, but dont all couples deal with that? Also, she never communicated to me that she wasnt happy and why, so in some way is she at fault too?Would an engagement be a stupid idea? Everyone says its disgusting that a 20 year old dates a junior in hs, do you think so? Will she even last with him? I need opinions! Link to post Share on other sites
had3nuff Posted February 22, 2007 Share Posted February 22, 2007 In my opinion she's doing what most 16 year old girls do - Basically she's exploring her options in life and relationships. No, I don't think the 20 year old is a good thing, and chances are it may not last. If she left on good terms then yes after a break up the chances of her coming back into a friendship or other is greater. Stop blaming yourself. If you read these boards, people of all ages are having problems with partners falling out of love, needing space, or some other reason to break for a while. You're definitely not alone. It happens to us all at one point or another throughout life. Anyhow... What you need to do is concentrate on keeping yourself happy and if one day she decides to come back and you're ok with that - you'll be wiser and have a stronger relationship. Good luck to you! Link to post Share on other sites
Yernasia Quorelios Posted February 23, 2007 Share Posted February 23, 2007 without any quality time This is what led my wife to believe I was taking her for granted and ending our marriage. She immediately started dating a guy who in her words "treated her the way she wanted to be treated". I sympathise with your situation and agree with had3 nuff What you need to do is concentrate on keeping yourself happy and if one day she decides to come back and you're ok with that - you'll be wiser and have a stronger relationship. It's also worth noting that if a person really wants to they will always be able to make quality time for the people they care about even if it is only for as little as a couple of minutes. When I find myself thinking that I'm too tired to make an effort, I always remind myself total exhaustion is what is seen at the end of a long distance race and the truth is I just can't be bothered. I've promised myself that, if I am fortunate enough that my wife takes me back, every day I am going to ask myself "What am I going to do today to make my wife happy?" Link to post Share on other sites
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