Second chance, time will tell

[sueidaho]

This is for anyone who is tired of crying and feeling down because of the ex.

 

I have recently been reading on how to get my ex back and have run across so many ideas that are really really helpful.... to myself.

 

Instead of focusing all my energys on something i can't help.EX. Instead i am focusing on improving myself and in the process of improving myself my focus is no longer on my EX.(consists of improving my self books, exersicing, changing my neg. attitude to positive so co workers love to be around me...which is working)

 

Now don't sit there and think well its just because she didn't love him. HA. He was my first boyfriend, I am 25 and never wanted to do the relationship thing. He would bend over backwards to please me, I took advantage of it. And I was the one who broke up and went back a day later. He couldn't deal with me.

 

I made all the classic mistakes, begging, crying, calling, texting, went to his work 3 different times, and house 2. All of this I did in the course of 3 weeks after it.Then I read and read and read about NC.Remember 1st boyfriend so first break up.YES it was hard. I cried every day for 3 weeks. the first week at least 12 times a day and talked to anyone who would listen.(told you I was screwed up)

 

So then I got a couple of books and started to read. While following these advices, which you might resist but if your true to the advice it helps hugely. Know I now that you might think well she doesn't want a second chance but that are what these books are trying to do.

 

Nights are the hardest cause I almost always dream of him. however one night my dream actually pushed him out of my brain and i woke up because I pushed him out which was progress. Why let your ex control you this way it's not heathy.

 

Anyway I have been NC for over three weeks(dont's think of him every day like i use to) and still have at least 2-3(and 3 dates) before I try to even talk to him again, but by this point I don't know if I want to even try to contact him again cause of the feelings of rejection. Maybe I will Maybe I won't only time will tell.

 

Maybe this will be a second chance story maybe it won't but it sure as he!! was a learning experience for me. ;)

[had3nuff]

Good advice.

 

I've read many self help books and the one thing that I've found that most agree on is TIME FRAME

 

For men - Months can feel like days. Time moves faster - Usually at the 3 month mark is when men will contact their ladies if they wish to get back together.

 

For women - Days feel like months. Time moves slower. Usually by the 1st week the neediness kicks in because it feels like the wait will never end.

 

Of course there are exceptions to both - but as I said, this is a popular theory in most books.