It's funny. I've met lots of women who describe themselves as complicated, as a forewarning perhaps. I wonder, do they think everyone else is simple, that perhaps they are unique in their uniqueness? And if this complicated life is an issue for forming a relationship, why not simplify it?
Many men are just as complex, as are many other women. We can all make life just as difficult, inauthentic or complicated, and we can all make it just as easy, authentic, simple as each other. Perhaps with s
I sent them a note about this ( you can read about the problem in my previous post ). I want to be able to say this stuff face to face, but I felt too nervous to do so. A note is better than nothing, I figure. Here's the note:
Guys
I like you both. We've had some great times, but there are tensions and things that have bugged me.
I did not like being part of a threesome. I find being part of a gang of three with a couple - in this case, you guys - quite harmful to my happiness. It's sup
I am reaching out for help and trying to contact fungrl9 regarding her blog posted on loveshack.org another web site.
I also had an affair with Clifton "Chris" Naivar that began in August of 2009. CCN has done to me everything he did to you.
Fungrl9 I need your help in moving on. Please contact me.
http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t142683/
This is the blog that finally made me reach out to you.
http://chat.datenation.com/blog/fungrl9/index.html?dcb=datenation.com
"Interna
Meh. So friends of mine, both of whom I have been close to, who became a couple and returned from a year abroad have been getting on my wick. When they got back, there was tension.
I felt nervous and was stand offish, she was quite clingy and attempting to make conspirational jokes about him with me, he was making snide remarks at me.
Roll on a month later, and we met up again last night, with other friends. I was still stand offish with her, she became more insistent, he was not aggressi
What came out of this was quite an enlightening discovery. We discussed how I felt fear and unable to be my real self a lot of the time.
I described how when I attempted suicide that at some point after about an hour after cutting my wrists, I felt a powerful, clear voice saying "this is not the way" and then called the emergency services. I felt that this was the man in me, the real me.
It was the same voice that had I had actually spoken with when in Nepal, in a truck, on mountain road
No contact is not a weapon or a tool to do anything to someone else.
It's all about you. Its about accepting you are not connected to that person or persons any more, whoever they are, and letting go of the connection you used to have with them.
How they perceive and react to your verbal disappearance is their business not yours.
No contact is a stage, a process. It is not a statement. You have decided you are no longer going to get hurt by maintaining a relationship with that person
I had my first session with a new therapist today. I was pretty bewildered, felt my throat constrict and breath shorten, so was quite tense. I liked the guy, and trust him, so I'm going with actually talking about sensitive issues with someone face to face as being the reason I had a fear response.
He asked why I choose him. Because I liked his profile in the therapist directory, and because he's a man. There's a lot of women in the caring professions, and one of my issues is being able to re
Satoshi Kanazawa has caused a firestorm by asserting that African women are less attractive than other races women. For this he has been called racist. He actually didn’t say anything new, or for that matter scientifically incorrect. However politically incorrect and insensitively stated it was. The man is guilty of being so stepped in his scientific ivory tower that he forgot how what he says may affect real people in the world. That said the conclusions of such work no matter how disturbing an
I've noticed I'm inclined to do this. Sometimes it's profitable to stand your ground, but when you go around and around in circles saying very little with someone, but still saying it, you're trying to have the last word with little effect.
Recognise the pattern, and break out of it when it's in your interests to do so. Letting them know you're washing your hands of it is an option, but it's the washing your hands of it that matters.
This happens especially on the Internet, so learning to
Here is what I think about the whole idea I have seen on here of my supposedly being "stalkerish", "creepy" or what have you. LS is not the first place I have been accused of that.
Some of you may wonder why I dismiss those comments with prejudice. Here is why.
I think I get that wrap because of my image as an intelligent black man who's interested in science and from suburban Chicago. Around here and across the country there are two prominent media images that people stereotype me
Desperate no. Desperate people struggle and try hard still. The desperate have the hope that with enough struggle they can get what they strive for.
It is more like... for a couple three years or there about I did not seek relationships. I was perfectly fine and willingly celibate. I did not really desire any such connections. I just wanted to focus on my research and studies.
Now that I am wrapping up this stage of my life it's like that part of me that was able to have relations
I have had a few threads that end up being about the problems that crop up when I tell someone I am a physicist.
They withdraw and react negatively. I think that at least half the time it's based on their religious faith.
It's a real problem because it seems to me that it really cuts down my dating pool by a great deal.
Let's call D the total number of people who are not married or engaged and of legal age to be theoretically date able at some point in the near future. d will be the
I have decided that I will withdraw from the dating scene online and in real life. So I will be weening myself off LS.
I just don't know what to do. I just don't know what to do. I just don't know what to do. :(
Certain people have given me good advice here and they now have the information to reach me IRL. Feel free to shoot me an email or whatever you know who you are.
As for certain others who may say they offered advice I would shoot down. That's because your advice was terr
I have noticed in several threads folks aren't listening to what I say.
I am not mindripper. People would reply to what I wrote quoting me as the OP. Mindripper wrote of wanting to kill himself. We haven't heard anything yet. I hope Mindripper is ok.
I don't need a significant other to be happy. I am happy with everything in my life that I do have. The right person could make me happier...but overal I am just fine. I just don't expect someone to fall into my lap.
As for how I d
I posted this in the dating forum first.
The following Points explain 90% of dating behavior of men and women. Tell me what yall think.
1) People are attracted first by looks and second by personality but both are of equal importance in getting a date.
2.) People are on average sexually attracted to universal signs of good health and fertility (i.e. good teeth, healthy build).... Then to signs of gender. A strongly masculine or feminine man or woman...who has sings of bad health
All last year I was so not in a mode to even want a relationship. From early 2009 to late October 2010 I wasn't even thinking relationships.
Then as soon as I got my brain in relationship mode, I thought of her. S. I checked up on S around Thanksgiving and what did I see. Three weeks earlier she declared herself to be "in a relationship".
I was really truly happy for her. She is not perfect by any means but deserves to be happy. I tried for most of December to hold it in. I tried
"People show us who they are but we ignore it. We want them to be what we want them to be." ~Donald Draper, Mad Men
"Not only will I not discontinue MY opinions you can put me on ignore whenever you feel the need. Deal or dismiss I don't care." ~BNB
Five years ago I had my first of two radical operations for throat cancer, the second was two years two months after. Although I have been so very lucky to still be here and because i really have healed remarkably well, I now feel destined to never find love again. My neck is the give away to anyone that i have had surgery and my smile is no longer as it was. I am very lucky not to have lost my tongue and voicebox asa was at first thought I might but my speech (although quite strong) is not as i
