You have to set them free:
"I release you to live your life the way you want to. You're free. I'm not holding you."
You don't say that out loud.
You say it on the inside.
You have to mean it.
"Always and everywhere, remember yourself."
Pay attention to yourself, your thoughts, your feelings, your needs, things that make you feel good, your hopes, your fears, your dreams.
You are the centre of your world, not anybody else.
Be there, with yourself, at the centre.
This is not selfishness.
This is self-awareness.
Peace.
The purpose of life is to learn to love unconditionally, and without reservation. In doing this, we achieve peace and happiness, and a return to our true nature. Every encounter we have is an opportunity to extend love.
It's OK to feel OK, and it's OK to feel good. It's OK even when somebody else isn't feeling good. It's OK even if someone else is suffering. In fact, we need to be OK, so that we can help others when they need us. We can't give what we don't have. If we aren't feeling peaceful inside how can we bring peace? If we don't feel the love inside, how can we give love?
The most fundamental relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. It sets the tone for all your other relationships. With this in mind, it's important to be loving and kind to yourself. Cultivate loving kindness towards yourself and you will be able to love others freely and without reserve.
*No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you.
*No indirect contact through third parties.
*De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media.
*No 'little birds' feeding you news.
*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.
They all say,"I needed xyz, and you weren't giving that to me."
Then you can get really clear in your head that its all your fault.
Then you can get really clear in your head that you're just not good enough.
Then you can get really clear in your head that you must do better.
Or, you can look at it this way: He did it because he wanted to.
Which is a good way of looking at it, because it's the truth.
All in all
Each man in all men
all men in each man
All being in each being
Each being in all being
All in each
Each in all
All distinctions are mind, by mind, in
mind, of mind
No distinctions no mind to distinguish
1. Sit down in a dining chair, or other upright chair.
2. Close your eyes, and let your attention come to your body. Let your attention wander around your body, just noting any sensations you feel. You may feel anything. Itching, hot, cold, tight, heavy, relaxed etc. Just notice any sensation.
3. Notice your breathing. Don't try to breathe in any particular way, just notice your breathing.
4. Bring your attention to the heart area, and let it rest there for few moments. You might like t
The relationship you have, is the relationship you have today.
If you're happy with it today, you'll probably be happy with it tomorrow.
If you're not happy with it today, you'll probably not be happy with it tomorrow.
The past is gone, and the future is unknown.
*Don't try to avoid your thoughts and feelings. That resistance just creates conflict and tension inside of you.
Allow your thoughts to come and go naturally, and do the same with your feelings.
You will find that there are nuggets of understanding and realisation in there which will help with your recovery.
If you block the painful feelings, you are at the same time blocking any good feelings which are being formed.
What you resist, persists.
For some reason, when you were with her/him, you chose to have her/him as the exact centre of your universe.
You were in orbit around her/him.
Then he/she was gone, and you had nothing to orbit.
Now you have to place the centre of your universe inside yourself.
Once you have done that, the empty place inside you will no longer be empty, and you will begin to enjoy life again.
