In some instances you are loving and caring, whilst in others you are unloving and uncaring.
You love and care for your child, but you don't love or care for the person you cheat on.
You say you want to know why you cheat?
The answer to that lies in the part of yourself which you cannot accept, which you have covered with unconsciousness.
It's classically Neurotic.
If you had a unified psyche, you wouldn't flip-flop between loving and unloving, caring and uncaring.
You need to
There's a fallacy that many people have bought into without realising it:
"Men and women are polar opposites."
Its not true.
Most of a man is very similar to most of a woman.
There are more similarities physiologically, than there are dissimilarities.
There are more similarities psychologically, than there are dissimilarities.
And here is the biggie:
There are more similarities hormonally, than there are dissimilarities.
The opposite sex are not exotic aliens that ar
No time to meditate?
Do this instead, twice a day:
1. Sit down, close your eyes, and let your awareness scan over you body, just noticing the sensations/how you feel.
2. Just sit with the feeling for one minute.
3.Tell yourself it's ok to feel that way. Feel love for yourself feeling those feelings.
Slowly open your eyes.
This takes 2-3 minutes, and will help you to feel more centred and grounded.
*No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means she might use to contact you.
*No indirect contact through third parties.
*De-friend or delete from all social media. No monitoring of her on social media.
*No 'little birds' feeding you news.
*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.
If you feel OK:
You look at the past, and the past looks OK.
If you feel bad:
You look at the past, and the past looks bad.
If you feel OK:
You imagine the future, and the future looks OK.
If you feel bad:
You imagine the future, and the future looks bad.
What that means, is that you have to find ways of making yourself feel OK in the present, so that you can have a past and future that look OK to you!
One way of looking at things, is to look at life as consisting
It is possible to get into a relationship with yourself that gives you a sense of deep satisfaction and fulfilment when you are alone, but its something that takes time to establish. It means getting to know yourself bit by bit, until you finally realise that it's ok to be happy.
The culture we live in constantly bombards us with the message that happiness is outside of us; that we can only be happy if we can find someone who loves us with a kind of fierce intensity. The real truth is that ha
Please do not beg and plead for her to take you back.
Please do not sit next to her crying uncontrollably.
Please do not bombard her with texts and calls.
Maintain your dignity at all times.
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You have to set them free:
"I release you to live your life the way you want to. You're free. I'm not holding you."
You don't say that out loud.
You say it on the inside.
You have to mean it.
Getting to that point takes time.
It's OK to feel OK, and it's OK to feel good. It's OK even when somebody else isn't feeling good. It's OK even if someone else is suffering. In fact, we need to be OK, so that we can help others when they need us. We can't give what we don't have. If we aren't feeling peaceful inside how can we bring peace? If we don't feel the love inside, how can we give love?
Love or dysfunctional attachment?
There are many things that people call 'love,' which aren't love at all.
Here's a little test:
"Love is total commitment to a person's wellbeing."
If you can both meet that standard, its love.
If you can't, it isn't.
Being 'In Love' is a time-limited neurochemical event.
Love on the other hand, is not time-limited, and can grow and grow over a whole lifetime.
Some relationships can progress from being 'in love' to love, but some can't.
It depends on what remains after the euphoria has worn off.
It doesn't matter what they are doing.
You are what matters.
Focus on yourself.
Your thoughts matter.
Your feelings matter.
Your healing matters.
Your journey through life matters.
Your hopes matter.
Your fears matter.
Your dreams matter.
Your learning matters.
Your realisations matter.
Your growth matters.
Your understanding of yourself matters.
Your return to happiness matters.
Poetry has always played a great part in my life, so I've decided to post more poetry. Here is a current favourite:
I carry you in my heart.
i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart) i am never without it (anywhere
i go you go, my dear; and whatever is done
by only me is your doing, my darling)
i fear
no fate (for you are my fate, my sweet) i want
no world (for beautiful you are my world, my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has
To really heal, its necessary to overcome the feeling of incompleteness that underlies everything. That feeling of incompleteness can only be remedied by Being, in the fullest sense of Being. We have to give birth to ourselves, and grow up all over again.
People get lost in events, and their personal history of events.
"So and so happened, and that's why I feel like this."
The above is an untruth.
The feeling is real, but the explanation isn't.
There isn't a valid because.
'Anxiety' is another name for fear.
More exactly, it's repressed fear try to push itself into your conscious mind, from its origin point in the subconscious.
Rather than trying to push the fear away, its useful to identify and name your fears.
"If we answer the question - what is the anxiety trying to tell me - we begin to address the cause. This may mean some change in the way you life your life, but this change does not necessarily mean that you become less competent, or less valued
These are the rules which guarantee success in OLD:
1. Never ever answer a text or message.
2. If you're disinterested, act interested.
3. If you're interested, act disinterested.
4. Only kiss on the 11th, 2nd, or 19th dates.
5. Always take your ex along on dates.
6. Always be honest about how many people you are exclusively dating.
Never been known to fail.
