1. Sit down in a dining chair, or other upright chair.
2. Close your eyes, and let your attention come to your body. Let your attention wander around your body, just noting any sensations you feel. You may feel anything. Itching, hot, cold, tight, heavy, relaxed etc. Just notice any sensation.
3. Notice your breathing. Don't try to breathe in any particular way, just notice your breathing.
4. Bring your attention to the heart area, and let it rest there for few moments. You might like t
The relationship you have, is the relationship you have today.
If you're happy with it today, you'll probably be happy with it tomorrow.
If you're not happy with it today, you'll probably not be happy with it tomorrow.
The past is gone, and the future is unknown.
*Don't try to avoid your thoughts and feelings. That resistance just creates conflict and tension inside of you.
Allow your thoughts to come and go naturally, and do the same with your feelings.
You will find that there are nuggets of understanding and realisation in there which will help with your recovery.
If you block the painful feelings, you are at the same time blocking any good feelings which are being formed.
What you resist, persists.
For some reason, when you were with her/him, you chose to have her/him as the exact centre of your universe.
You were in orbit around her/him.
Then he/she was gone, and you had nothing to orbit.
Now you have to place the centre of your universe inside yourself.
Once you have done that, the empty place inside you will no longer be empty, and you will begin to enjoy life again.
To be loved, be loving.
To find peace, be peaceful.
To find forgiveness, be forgiving.
To be cared about, be caring.
To be treated kindly, be kind.
To be understood, be understanding.
To have friends, be friendly.
Etc.
We have no right to receive anything that we do not give.
The key to dealing with anger is externalising it.
You can do this by:
Speaking about it to a trustworthy person, writing about it, or any other means of expression that works for you.
Anger is very physical, so physical ways of externalising it can be be particularly helpful. Some examples are:
Going to a place where nobody can hear you and shouting it out as loud as you can, for as long as you can.
Hitting a punch bag until you can't punch any more.
Breaking something, and th
"Our search for such [moral] principles can start with . . . the unconditional imperative to acknowledge every person as a person. If we ask for the contents given by this absolute, we find, first, something negative—the command not to treat a person as a thing. This seems little, but it is much. It is the core of the principle of justice."
- Paul Tillich.
The only way to overcome fear is to face up to it. Allow yourself to feel the fear without trying to push it away.
Trying to push it away creates tremendous inner tension, and feeds the fear.
Notice the physical sensations in you body that come with it, but don't try to suppress them, just notice the way your body feels.
Allow yourself to fully experience it for a few minutes, and then just go about your business.
From my journal:
"The baby grows inside the Mother. Our consciousness grows inside the Baby. What is to come grows inside our consciousness. In that sense, we are our own Mothers, or at least Mothers of that which is to come."
1. You're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce.
2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps.
3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right.
4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person.
5. Tell y
If you had a broken finger, would you try to heal it by not thinking about it?
"Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."
— C. G. Jung
Freud and Jung concluded that most mental and emotional pain comes from:
Resistance
Conflict
and
Failure to adapt.
All you will achieve by trying not to think about this is the creation of terrific tension in your psyche.
The thoughts come, but you try not to think about them = re
I absolutely don't believe that "Time heals all wounds."
I don't think that time heals anything.
But I do believe that time spent on healing, heals most wounds.
