Does it worry you that both your parents were abused and you ended up being drawn to someone as an adult who was abused as well?

It used to worry me, but then I understood it. I was defining myself by how much I helped other people. Kind of a karma thing gone wrong. I did have a fantasy of rescuing an abused woman, but then I realised I was also looking to be rescued.

At the time, she and I were at a similar place in our lives. Very few other people would put up with the ridiculous ways she and I behaved. And by being able to put up with it from each other, we got deeper down and learned a lot about ourselves.

It is true if a child is abused in early life with end up having abuse in his behaviour and will victimize the partner blaming "they caused it".We must seek councelling and group therapy to get to the root of it and untie that long knotted uncomfortable. Only when we come to terms with it are we at peace with ourselves and can love ourselves and love others bwithout abusing them. Careful not to enact our parents abuse.