Some possibly helpful tips for the crisis phase.
1. You're still in the crisis phase - you are very hurt, disappointed and angry, but the intensity of your feelings will reduce.
2. Don't suppress your feelings, or tell yourself that you shouldn't be feeling what you're feeling - that never helps.
3. Externalise your feelings by writing them down, talking to a trustworthy person, or using any other mode of expression that feels right.
4. Remind yourself frequently that you can and will have a good life without this person.
5. Tell yourself frequently that you can and will love again.
6. Take care of your body:
Eat enough and eat healthily.
Drink enough water.
Get a bit more rest than you think you need.
Do some easy exercise - nothing too strenuous.
If you feel physically unwell go to see your doctor.
7. Do not allow yourself to become socially isolated or withdrawn.
8. Establish Total No Contact with your ex. No contact directly, indirectly, or by social media. Thats not easy, but it helps.
9. Keep up with all your responsibilities and things you have to do.
10. Do not use alcohol or drugs in an attempt to self-medicate.
11. Post here as often as you want to. People here want to help.
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