I understand what you're saying, but in my world you experience the deepest possible connection when you extend yourself to another, to the greatest degree possible for you.

Total extension of the Self.

Nothing held back.

Nothing conditional.

Nothing reserved for 'maybe later.'

I don't think that the real problem is the difficulty of finding someone like her again.

I think that the real problem is that you've self-protectively closed your heart to some extent, as a result of the pain of loss you've experienced, and as a consequence you feel disconnected and alone.

You need to be willing to fully extend yourself to someone, or it really can't happen for you again.

It's not about the scarcity of suitable women.

Its about you, and the way you're unconsciously protecting yourself.

Open up.