The most important thing anyone should do for themselves is to never make another person the center of their world. Another person should be part of their world, but the nucleus is always YOU. I don't care how long you are with a person, how much you love them, how much they love you . . . you should have a rich, fulfilling life before they came along and, if it ever ends, you have that to rest on. You never lose YOU. They should only add to, enhance that. There may be, and should be, some differences in terms of interests, hobbies, etc. and some that you share, but never lose yourself in someone else.

Yes, you might grieve for their loss, but don't let go of or lose focus on YOU. It's kind of like losing cabin pressure on an airplane -- put the oxygen mask on yourself first . . .

I agree with you 100%.

The most important thing anyone should do for themselves is to never make another person the center of their world. Another person should be part of their world, but the nucleus is always YOU. I don't care how long you are with a person, how much you love them, how much they love you . . . you should have a rich, fulfilling life before they came along and, if it ever ends, you have that to rest on. You never lose YOU. They should only add to, enhance that. There may be, and should be, some differences in terms of interests, hobbies, etc. and some that you share, but never lose yourself in someone else.

 

Yes, you might grieve for their loss, but don't let go of or lose focus on YOU. It's kind of like losing cabin pressure on an airplane -- put the oxygen mask on yourself first . . .

I agree absolutely.

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